How do you cope?

So many fapstronauts here speak about cold showers for example, I have taken cold showers but not when an urge hit me. The main thing to do I believe is focusing mentally in other things and maybe some physical motion (walking, running, swimming, etc.)
Sometimes you may found yourself in a situation where you can't leave or even move or whatever. Then you just gotta change your thinking and think about other stuff, easier said than done, I know. Meditation might help you if you start doing it daily like 10-15 minutes (first thing in the morning I've read is the best time to do it).
Hope I could help a little!

 

Lately I've been coming here and reading some post. Also it helped me to understand that urges are just part of this process, the longer you go the less power they have on you.

 

The most important thing is being in a place you can't pmo or being distracted by something you really enjoy. If you just try to fight the battle all day you will eventually lose. You have to rewire your brain to understand there are better forms of stimulation.

For me it's school and having a new video game ready too play all the time. Then something just as important is being very involved here or with a group trying to do this.

 

The encouragement from knowing others are struggling in the same way is a great motivator. I have found it to be extremely helpful. Lastly for me Christianity is the underlying motivator and if you are not praying or have no reason behind what toy are doing, it is much more difficult.

Sorry long windedbutt I how it helps

 

Don’t attach to the thought, just let it be and focus on other chores. I don’t get urges, it may be because my libido is broken or something, but do why do people get urges. Did they get excited and have a thought and then continued to play with that fire which just grows and grows. I have had instances where I wake up with major erections, but they are only enjoyable because I focused and was paying too much attention to it, in many ways. Perhaps you’re doing the same. Watch your thoughts, they control your emotions. Meditate, this will help you be more aware of your thoughts which will help in nofap and other arenas of life

 

Time. Chronobiology, so that includes meal and sleep scheduling with regularity - for starters. Of course strictly speaking this is not battling sudden strong urges but preventing it from happening because things are more predictable with a schedule. Even if you get a strong urge it is more likely to be a certain part of the day if you have structure rather than something that catches you off guard, so you know to expect it and it isn't a surprise.

I was thinking it's funny how what are typically considered "big boy" things like smoking, drinking, staying up late and how the stereotypical taunts "Isn't it past your bedtime?" are things that are bad for you. We have a dumbass popular culture.

 

I like the first paragraph and agree very much with the second, ignorant society

 

Exactly this, I've now made myself remove my phone off me when going to the bathroom even if I'm urinating.

 

For me I'm at peace with the urges. Mine are strong and physically uncomfortable. But in a weird way I enjoy them. To me they remind me that I am human, and alive. And also that I have power over them, and I am stronger. I just acknowledge them, allow them, and let them be. Probably not very helpful but that's all I do. I don't try to purposefully distract myself, instead I make a conscious desision to allow myself to wholey feel the discomfort and live through it. Because its part of the process and every new urge is progress, because you are accepting it, acknowledging it, allowing yourself to feel it, but not giving in to it.

Basically I turn the urge into something positive that should be embraced. Instead of thinking of it as something negative that has to be fought.

You can't control or stop your urges. You can change how you think about them though. And that in turn will change how you react to them.

The urge means you haven't given in. So celebrate it and look forward to the next one instead of running away from them.