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I fully support celebrating this new-found desire for her with plenty of closeness and intimacy, as long as it is not bringing you closer to relapsing with PM.
As long as she is comfortable with the level to which you want to be intimate with her and pleasure her.... I see absolutely no problem.
I got a little paranoid when my fiance would want to have sex because I thought he was replacing PMO with me in a bad way. (He wasn't.)
If it's in a good way.... I say go for it!

 

My personal opinion is that sex with someone you care about during reboot helps to rewire the brain to her (as long as you don't fantasize about others). My husband and I practiced Karezza at the beginning of his reboot (slow sex with no O for him). It helped with connection tremendously (he said it was magical) and helped us both to relax and it took pressure off of him.

 

That’s exactly what we ( 1st 2 weeks nothing though , next 2 , just what you said , then 120 of no sex but O together . I needed it , The closeness , physical part ..

 

My husband and took a step back on sex during reboot, when we did it was focused on the connection and intimacy with each other. In line with what @Sadgirl said.

 

Since orgasm is essential to the addiction, sex isn't always the best solution.

 

It’s working for us as we don’t fully want to give it up as we are still hoping for a pregnancy.

 

Good luck! Nothing places demands against selfishness like a baby!

 

Hi Sadgirl,

This is a used case I can relate to, I fantasise someone else when I am with my partner, I don't want to do that at all but I am not reaching an orgasm without doing it. I want to be faithful and happy with my wife, who I love very much, we are married but did not have sex till now, its been close to 5 years (Its true). Please help me

 

Hi @Madkod ! I am really so glad that you are here and reaching out for support. Does your wife know about your issue?

 

Sex actually helped my husband's reboot. He gave up PM but sex between the two of us was never off limits.

 

Can I just say that I don't think orgasm is essential to the addiction. My husband frequently just watched his fetish without masturbating or any touching. Just watching it was often release enough.

@OP -My husband and I had lots of sex early in his reboot (no O for him for a few weeks though). His PIED disappeared for the first time in years. I think he have to find what works for you. Everyone is different in their triggers and reboot, what works for one might not work for another. As long as you are comfortable with it then go for it!

 

She just knows about the porn addiction and she knows I am fighting it too. Is there somewhere I can private message? Really want someone to listen and suggest.

 

Yes! Go to my profile and you will see a private message tab!

 

Yeah, now that you are not locked down! lol