January is over

Don't feed the urge by indulging in these thoughts. That's how you relapse days or maybe even weeks before you actually relapse. You don't just wake up one day and suddenly relapse, it builds up to the eventual relapse. To stop this build up you have to be aware of your thoughts so, when you get urges you can cut them off immediately.

Keep up the good work

 

yep, this is very true.

 

congrats on 1 month...the toughest month for me .The urges significantly get lesser after few months ,but will never disapear completely .What i did is learning to control my thoughts ,and diverting sexual thoughts to something else.It was hard for me the first month ,but then it was quicker ,even immidiate.If you follow your sexual thoughts ,its likely you will fail. Good luck to you

 

Yeah.

 

Even i feel urges when i see something but i avoid stalking at girls because it could serve as a trigger . Even if i am watching video and i feel urge while seeing any girl i close that video ,This is my way of avoiding a relapse and its working well for me. Good Luck

 

dont get angry...everything happens for a reason....stay cool

 

I feel the same way sometimes. Plus to make matters worse, everyone who's in a relationship seems to want to rub it in your face

But what can we do now? We're where we are because of our past actions, right?

All we can do is keep improving ourselves, think of the future and hope for the best.

And also just be prepared for the fact that what we want may never happen...