Need Suggestions For Keeping Up Hard Mode

Is all your benefits true? I still have my doubts im on my 17th day.

 

What is helping me is that I've specified a clear and tangible goal for why I wanted to stop PMO. Not something vague like 'I want to get better' or 'I want to improve myself' but something concrete. For me the main one is: 'I want to form a meaningful and passionate relationship and have great sex with a rock-hard penis by the end of 2018'. There are a couple of smaller ones but this one keeps me going.

Then when I feel an urge, I remind myself of my goal and that by PMO'ing I will never achieve it.

 

Set realistic goals. You are at 37 days which is great, now you should make your next goal 45 days, then make another goal to reach 60 days. After reaching 60, go for 75 days, then 90 days and you should begin to notice positive changes within your self. In my experience the more days I accomplished, the more control over thoughts, urges and temptations, it became easier and obtainable to 'maintain' a growing amount of positive consistency regarding control. I had to learn and gain trust over myself.

The first 90 days is tough for many. Education is key to overcoming challenges and accomplishing your goals, especially 1 year of hard mode. Learn to recognize your triggers and urges and how to react positively when you are tempted. Don't give them any time or attention and when you do you will learn that you have more power over your thoughts and you will be in complete control. Just tell yourself the longer you abstain and stay committed to reaching your goal, the easier it gets by gaining control over negative thoughts and urges. I wish you the best and do know you can do this! Stay focused and committed and before you know it you'll have reached a point of no return regarding the past and 1 year hard mode will be easier than you think.

 

I have headaches aswell! They are not bad but just weird. Like a lighter form of migraine i still have. They also started when i was on nofap. Now i'm on day 40 so i guess it's just from nofap. Since masturbating is a stress releaver. (wich is my little theorie)

 

38 days is Great
Very modest -- and wise -- for you to ask for advice (in the abundance of counselors there is Victory). We all want you to keep getting more and more Daily Victories.

Your headaches m-a-y be caused by too much: sugar.......salt.......tight fitting hats.......chemical in air... etc.

To your 8 Brocade exercise (like Chinese stretching exercises) .... you might add some weight training. Weights (resistance training) will further help relieve stress........ The muscle you will add is like 'body armor'; beneficial and protective for you and your girlfriend/wife.

And as 'A_victory' basically said above , "set incremental goals (45 days, 60 days, 75 days, etc.)." I would add ..... More rewards [presents] to you = more encouraging. So you could add daily....... weekly....... or 45/60/75 day rewards (dessert, hobby items, trips, new car, new IT gadget, etc.) Theses VISUAL (and VISIBLE) REWARDS will help prompt the behavior you are seeking. You are on the road to Constant Success! Keep up the great work !!!

 

I am using an strategy and has been working for me. Plan A reach 1 year. Plan B reach 1 year. Plan C reach 1 year
Everytime you decide to give up you'll remember that your second plan is not giving up.

 

brother this is energy that you have to spend wisley keep a constant vigal

 

That headache could be aswell tension. I got super tension when I quit M 2 years ago. Didnt mediate back then and didnt use supplements for brain.

Anyway man I think you need to find ways how to cope with tension and stress cause M been working as stress reliever for you for a long time and now you have to find other ways.