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  1. Stop5000

    Stop5000 Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone. I'm 24 years old and I believe I been addicting to porn since I was 16. However, I didn't find it an issue until I turned 23 and since then I've been trying to quit. I feel like I'm no longer in control and as a man a control is a must. I'm admitting that it is an issue and I do need help in stopping to better my life. I'm hoping I can receive all the support I need from this site being that it's a new found family for me. This is probably one of the hardest things I ever had to face in my life. Something that started as a way of enjoyment and released has now become the worse thing ever. I started this site yesterday as well as the 30 day challenge. Today I relapsed and the thought of fighting it didn't even come to mind. I am committed this time around this year is the year I beat this illnes
     
  2. Hey @Stop5000 ,

    I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

    Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

    What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

    First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

    Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

    Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

    That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

    * L

    PS:

    One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @C. J. Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/153580/
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    @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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    @weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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    @2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/150280/
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    @Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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  3. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here.

    You bet, it really is hard! But -- you can do this! And there are lots of people here who can and will help.

    Keep coming back!
     
  4. We are here to support you. God bless you.
     
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  5. Welcome , my friend.
     
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  6. Stop5000

    Stop5000 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you @Trappist. Im glad to know that it is possible and I'm not the only one who felt like this will never be cured. It's a light at the end of the tunnel and with you guys help I will make it this time
     
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  7. When I first entered the tunnel it seemed dark and really scary. Like you, I was looking around for the light at the end of the tunnel.

    As I got more involved with the online community here, I realized that each member was holding a light of their own. Some were torches, flashlights, candles while others were dimmer and far off so I wasn't sure what kind of light it was.

    I stayed on my journey towards the light at the end of the tunnel. While moving I realized I was not only using the light at the end to guide me but the light of every member on here. Their lights were showing me pitfalls and potholes to avoid, I was not alone.

    I try to carry my own light to help others as well. Some find it useful and others have need of a different kind of light. It works here because of the diversity of our community. So, if a member finds my illuminations useful, that's good. If they see where I'm shining my light and that's not the path for them, it's equally good.

    Glad you are finding the community welcoming.

    * L
     
  8. Stop5000

    Stop5000 Fapstronaut

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    I completed my first day and going down my feed I got very emotional with the warm welcomes. This illness has brought shame to my life so much that we all have to remain anonimous in able to feel free to speak. So long I wanted support in able to beat this. Thank God it's people like you guys that truly understands and are going through what I am. I find myself more capable of beating this because of The NoFap community.
     
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  9. This is so true. Shame is a horrible thing. It is brought on by the lies perpetrated by society (the evil one). Everyone projects that they all have it together but in truth everyone is struggling with something. You are not alone. May God heal you and strengthen you.
     
  10. So glad you are here.
     

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