why is the sex bored to me ?

Of course you can. You need time for your mind and body to heal. Good luck

 

You have to stop the porn or you'll never have a normal enjoyable sex life. Stay strong...

 

man, just go to a strip club, those girls will touch you and you'll see, you like sex

 

I understand your frustration, your stress and your anxious thoughts. But it takes many months to recover from the damage you did to yourself. You cannot expect 6 years of hardcore porn use to be solved in 2 months. It is not possible. Also, although you have not watched porn for two months (well done!), you are still masturbating. You need to stop friend!

 

This doesn't sound like a good idea at all.

 

Have sex in a different place maybe rent a hotel do different positions.. Sex becomes boring if it becomes predictable.

 

I think you are probably comparing your real life sex with your expectations from porn. This is like comparing your cheap car to a Lamborghini. It will make you sad everytime.

You need to stop fantasizing and comparing while in the bed, and start to be totally present in the moment.
It will take time to learn this.

Meanwhile enjoy the flatline and spend your time mastering your skills and gathering knowledge. Sex is hugely overrated in our society. There are many things in life that are much more fulfilling and meaningful than sex

 

why is that ??

He needs to restore the feeling of a real girl

 

He has day counter setup and it is currently at 3 days.

So he is trying not to PMO.

If he followed your suggestion, it would leave him in an aroused state, making it much more likely that he will PMO, or at least MO.

 

As others have mentioned, you may be in a flatline.

You can read more about that here: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/search/node/flatline

 

Porn changes our view of what sex is. Everything you see in porn is just a fantasizes ciew of it PLUS its what youre seeing. When you actually do it, you dont see ALLL the things youre seeing in porn, thw closeups, the camera angle, the sounds.... I wont go into detail but sex is SUPPOSED to be about emptional connection and theres feelings involved and its just a beautiful way of expressing love to your mate.

But porn went ahead and made that something completely different and it then escalates to different levels and so on, ultimately getting into some really weird crap..

So when we actually do it, were like wth i thought this was supposed to be good. And were disappointed by it.

like mentioned before, our brain takes TIME to rewire to be back to how it should be

theres countless accounts of guys who actually feel attracted to REAL girls. Even im like “how the hell will i ever be able to get there?” but hey its time and consistency. And acknowledging that the urge to do so is there but not acting upon it.

Im personally abstaining from sex as well as PMO i just believe its something to be done after marriage, but even if i wasnt waiting, i probably wouldnt have sex until much much later after my brain has rewired. I would never want to be disappointed by it and then WANT to relapse because i didnt O during sex

Anyways man, liek mentioned before, it takes time. Dont give up dont stop fighting and keep your brain determined that it will get better

 

I am confused are you a virgin? If so how do you know you do not like sex?

 

There are some people that are asexual and there’s nothing wrong with that. But they are usually always that way. You don’t have a sex drive and suddenly become asexual . Chances are you have a drive but something has happened to make it go away. And you can’t say you don’t like sex if you have never had it. Your situation is like someone who has only ever looked at pictures of chocolate and at first it was nice you enjoyed it but after awhile it was boring who wants to keep looking at pictures? So you conclude that because you are bored with chocolate pictures you don’t like chocolate without ever even tasting it to see if you do.

 

You won't find any real girls in strip clubs. He said he's a virgin. Strip clubs would mess his values up even further. Now stop making these bad suggestions. If you are trying to justify strip clubs, I don't think this is the platform.

 

Ok, I understand your confusion. We have to separate things here. We have to look at the facts.

1) You are abstaining from porn and masturbation. This causes acute withdrawal symptoms, many of which impact your thinking, your mood, your hormonal balance and your sexual function. Until you reboot succesfully, you will have weird things happening in these areas. This is just the way it is, everyone here is going through it.

2) You are comparing what you think and feel to to your idea of what a "normal guy" would think. This is creating problems for you. You start to worry because of the difference between what you think and what you feel you should think.

3) When you see a girl and don't feel sexually attracted right away, this is a good sign. It is a sign that

• You are in a flatline and you reboot is working
• You are starting to not objectify women as before.

Thinking about sex everytime you see a girl is a bad thing.
It is objectification of women. It is living in a fantasy world of perverse thoughts. It means that your impulses have the power to take control of yor thoughts and behaviour.

4) When you say that your penis won't leave you alone, this is because of the rebooting process. Your hormones are going crazy. You are 19 years old, this is already a crazy period for your hormones, and now that you have started this healthy process, you will have an even stronger hormonal readjustment.

You can take cold showers or put an ice pack on your balls to calm your little friend down.

Happy rebooting. You can do it. It is confusing right now, but if you keep doing it, it will get easier, and you will get smarter. Good luck

 

man, you are talking nonsense. Doing nofap doesn't mean hating sex. For somebody who cannot appreciate a real woman, I think he needs a strong wake up call to start liking real girls and not video of fucked up stuff.