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Performance issues although addiction seems to be overcome

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Bobeard, Feb 5, 2018.

  1. Feb 5, 2018 #1
    Bobeard

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    Hello friends :)
    First a bit about myself:
    - I am active in NoFap for a few months now and I have to say I think I improved. I get morning woods and wet dreams which I consider is a sign of recovery from addiction. My longest streak was almost 21 days, I think I relapsed on day 20, but I think it's okay bc I kinda wanted to, it was my decision to PMO.
    - I PMO'd a really really long time. I'm kind of a late bloomer. Lost my virginity with 24 and got straight in a relationship with the girl. So far so good. I think she didn't really realized/recognized any problems bc she was quite young and many times we were drunk and the sex went well (bc of the alc...).
    - Now the issue:
    I recently met a women and we went to her place. Soon enough we engaged in sexual activities. All good, but I just lasted for 1min tops, and she was like "oh already finished?" and that kinda hurt...I had the same issues with my ex girlfriend. I don't really have issues getting an erection anymore but the "performance" still suffers from my PMO addiction I think. When I am drunk it's okay but it's bc my penis isn't that sensitive while drunk I reckon.
    Anyone with similar experiences and maybe wants to share? Maybe someone knows ways to fix the issue?
    Thanks for reading! :)
     
    Bobeard, Feb 5, 2018
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  2. Feb 5, 2018 #2
    RedeemedIowan

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    Interested to hear feedback as well
     
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  3. Feb 5, 2018 #3
    GG2002

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    There is a very simple solution here, stop the PMO. No secret formula. We ladies understand if the first few times we are together you have issues with PE, DE, ED, you are nervous. But if it keeps happening we will notice and we will leave unless we have a plausible explanation like you have PIED for why it’s happening. So stop the PMO, stay single for a while or be honest with this woman about what you are dealing with. Do you really want to be drunk everytime you have sex? No woman wants that either.
     
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  4. Feb 6, 2018 #4
    Bobeard

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    First of all: Thank you for your insight :)
    Ofc I don't want to be drunk everytime! ^^
    But you said stop PMO. I get the PM part and I am working on that, but no O as well? Even if it's only while having sex with a women (or a guy). I thought especially that would help to accustom the penis to be a little less sensitive and thus improving the act?
    Thank you!
     
    Bobeard, Feb 6, 2018
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  5. Feb 6, 2018 #5
    GG2002

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    O with a partner is fine so long as he or she does it, and you don’t use your own hand. Some men do need to go hard mode so no O at all but that’s up to you.
     
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  6. Feb 9, 2018 #6
    Bobeard

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    thank you very much! :) very good insight. So far I had the attitude to allow myself to relapse every 14days or so, bc I thought if I can consistently get to 10days+ I am not really addicted, you know? As far as this might be true, that I am in fact, not really addicted, the effects are probably still there.
    So I decided to stay away from PM as long as possible now! Thank you
     
    Bobeard, Feb 9, 2018
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