31 Days in... No sex drive (flatline)

yes, it definitely does come back. Its one of the hardest parts of recovery, but I can tell you from experience it will return. Right now your body is needing to "reset" since it was forced into finding arousal only in fetishized ways - thats part of how the addiction works, we get "bored" with "regular p" and need a stronger "fix."

Now your body is flatline because it needs time to readjust and find out what healthy arousal will look like This period is one of the hardest parts imo, because we can easily relapse thinking things like "this isn't working!"

after months of flatline I found myself being attracted to people in new, healthier ways. One of the best parts imo was being attracted to women my own age (and even older). My brain, eyes, etc. stopped "scanning" bodies in certain ways....I can't really explain it you just have to stick through it and you'll see - life is better on the other side!

 

It's natural. When your flatline ends, one day you will start feeling super horny. It happened to me on day 28, and all I could think for 3 days was only sex. Just masturbate it out when you start feeling it, because in my experience, that's when you've rebooted. Just never touch porn again. I had 0 libido before day 28. However, I kept to noPMO till day 53, which in my experience isn't the right thing to do as I was unable to maintain good erection while I masturbated that day. It's probably because I went into a second flatline. But I've masturbated like 7 times since then, and after the first 2-3 times, the last 4 times I was able to get proper hard erections with just touch and some light fantasizing. Avoid fantasizing porn too. Just think about any real life sexual encounter you've had or some girl you found was dressed naughty on the streets. Would help . Although it isn't the right thing to do ethically, but let's not worry about our ethics when our biology is in trouble.

 

Hello I read on YBOP that if you've never had sex before and were hooked to porn it might take longer for you to reboot cause that was where you first arousal came from. So you brain knows that type of arousal alone and because you've never been with a woman before its going to take some time before your brain gets trained to be aroused by them. So you're heading in the right direction. Just a little patience will get you there.

Good luck and don't worry too much it'll all be well.

 

Well, most people here say you should quit PMO forever. But I think most people here are wrong, as Yourbrainonporn.com and 2 urologists and 1 psychologist I met in the last month all said that going noPMO for life isn't a good idea if you wanted to have a healthy sexual life. Porn is the enemy and not masturbation. The initial noPMO is recommended only so your brain reboots. And it's considered rebooted if you're able to get erections to normal real life fantasy or just have random boners during the day or you're simply ABLE to masturbate successfully without any artificial stimulation like porn or sexting or even your gf's pictures. Once you hit that stage, it's recommended that you do masturbate whenever you feel like it, just don't use artifical stuff. Because your penis is a 'use it or lose it' tool. Complete abstinence would render it useless in the long run so I wouldn't recommend it, atleast not from my experience and based on what these doctors tell me. Before I started nofap I wasn't able to masturbate or get hard without porn. I went noPMO for 53 days, and I rebooted around 28 days. So I went around 25 days after I rebooted. So the first two times I masturbated, I wasn't able to get hard, because my libido was super low since my penis was losing any activity so I was beginning to lose function of it. It's like a second flatline that I entered. I still managed to ejaculate with weak erections the first two times. But the third time on, I've been able to get hard healthy erections and was able to masturbate healthily to touch and real life fantasy alone. So my advice to you is, once you think you're rebooted (once your flatline ends the first time), go ahead and have some fun, but keep it healthy. Just quit porn for life. It may sound like a huge thing to you now, but trust me, I've been PMO-ing for 12 years, I feel no need for porn anymore, knowing its ill effects, and I can still get my mojo on without it. I consider myself healthy now. These days even small sexy scenes on tv turn me on. Previously I wouldn't even react to them as I needed full nudity. But of course even watching sexy scenes on tv is considered artifical stimulation and unhealthy, but you can't live your life like a saint. Just don't rewind for those sexy scenes again. Keep moving forward. Keep your brain and penis healthy by natural stimulus alone.

 

Keep going! Flatline means you are on track and doing it right!

 

I hear what you're saying but not once did you mention he should get a girlfriend to try it out with like it was recommended in YBOP. See the whole idea I channelling the brain to a woman period. And so once you start masturbating that alone might get boring in the long run and you start needing something more to get hard or to entertain yourself. Next thing you know you're back to those old habits. So I'd rather he moved towards women he finds attractive unlike seeing them and not hitting on them and going back home to masturbate on fantasy,that's risky he might relapse and ruin the whole rebooting process. So my brother the ball is your court you can either masturbate or wait for nature to run its course and you fully reboot and move towards women you love,or on fantasy. But a word of advice is,MO might trigger PMO. With that said,goodluck.

 

I'm 54 days in and guess I'm going through the same thing I have a girl too I'm seeing at the moment. I get hard when we start kissing and I get 50% erection but that's a good sign. I want to rewire with a real person and feel sensitized to her you see.

 

Hmm, I can only speak from my experience and after nofap I dont feel like going back to Porn. I did forget to emphasize on one thing. MO ONLY when you're feeling horny. And TRY to make the MO sessions twice a week.

Me knowing the harmful effects of porn, wont even consider using it again as im now more easier turned on in general. Yes ofc getting a gf is the best answer and I think thats pretty obvious. Key is just no artificial stimulation. Me, I think I'd get 10/10 boners with a girl now, now that I'm just getting off to fantasies and touch alone. And those fantasies are real life and often things I've actually experienced in the past. I'm able to get boners just by plain stimulation itself, even without fantasizing sometimes. This was never the case before quitting porn. I tried to fantasize and masturbate before, and I was always floppy. And plain touch just didn't cut it enough no matter how hard I stroked it. Now I'm just gently grazing it and I'm getting a strong boner, like I used to get when I used to watch the best porn videos. When I'm rebooted and aware of the ill effects of porn, I think I'd get easy boners with a girl because I have real stimulation. If at all I get Ed with a girl, it'll only be anxiety and not porn related.. Bottom line is just never touch porn no matter the cost. And setting a limit to your masturbation habits will only make things easy. You don't even need fantasy. Your touch alone should do it once you've rebooted. Coming from a 31 year old who's used porn for 12 years AT LEAST once a day.

 

-Definitely.. Have you been feeling the flatline since the first week you started nofap? How old are you and haven't you felt horny anytime after the first two weeks?

 

Hmm yes, how long have you been into porn? YBOP.com said that people who started porn at a younger age may take longer to kick out of this flatline and reboot.

 

Man you're still young give yourself a break and find a nice girl your age and experiment with so I wish you all the best and Shalom