I booked an escort for sunday, first experience ever, anxious, need V****a?

You posted this in another thread. It's just as bad a plan here as it is there. Don't do it.

 

Each time you give in your will power falters

 

It’s a really bad idea to have sex with an escort.
It’s dangerous to have sex with anyone who’s sexual history you don’t know. You might catch any kind of STDs, which are even a bigger problem than PIED if you can believe it. And yes, even with protection you can catch some STDs. Is it really worth it to put your body through hell for a short term pleasure? I don’t think so. Even if the risk of an STD is 0.000001%, it’s still a risk.
Besides, it’ll not be worth it anyway because you’ll have lost your money on someone who doesn’t really care about you. This was my two bits, I hope I could convince you to not go through with this idea.

 

If you ever want a long term meaningful relationship, can almost gauarentee she'll be 1000% more botheted if she finds out you've been with a prozzy than the fact you're a virgin....and they always do! Lol

Mate of mine once admitted to his then girlfriend he'd kissed an ''off duty'' stripper we met in bar...6 months before they even got together.

She could never let it go...

 

Big risk this could put you in an even worse situation. Can tug at your morals, confidence, and the experience probably won't be good.

Sounds like youre making a rash decision.
Honestly keep working on your reboot. Stop looking at porn etc. If in a month you've thought about the decision and reviewed and are prepared for different outcomes, well power be to you to make your own decisions.

 

This. Think a hundred times before you go down this road. You’ll probably come to the conclusion (at least I hope so) that you’ll only regret it later. Focus on your reboot first and foremost and DONT try to test if it’s working out or not. This is most important

 

My advice is to not go through with this. It's not too late. A few seconds of pleasure are going to then haunt you for the rest of your life. This is not the answer and will lead to guilt regret and depression. Your virginity is a valuable thing and you should save it for someone you love. You need to complete a successful reboot and get your head straight. This is not going to make you happy or solve any problems. Control yourself and do what you know deep down is right. Any external observer will tell you that this is clearly a mistake.

 

I think this is a bad idea, its going to confuse you a lot and possibly leave you with another addiction - sex addiction. An escort doesn't care about intimacy or any of the love and fluffy stuff in relationships, she/he doesn't care if you wanna have sex on a bed or in a dumpster as long as you are capable of paying them.

Plus you don't know who you are really going to end up with, they could be carrying many stds or use the romance call as a means to rob you..

Its just a bad idea, i really thought about doing this a while ago.. Till i read some unfortunate recount of a desperate lonely married guy money waste on escorts.. You are beautiful and amazing, dont do it .

I was lonely and desperate when i wanted to do this, a friend of mine did it quite often.... But i saved up myself and now am doing everything in terms of relationships for the first time ever with my fiance at age 27.

So big deal, some kid in the uk probably slept with 40 women already by age 16 and am prob gona do it for the first time by the time am 28 after we get married lol

 

In all seriousness, you are possibly setting yourself up for one of the most traumatic experiences that could have long-term implications for the rest of your entire life. You need to listen to me from my own personal experiences with sex / pornography addiction. This is 100% your addict talking you into this scenario you feel is going to be "Glorious" or "Deserved" but what you're more than likely going to end up with is a lacklustre even painful experience of being with a woman (that honestly doesn't want to be there with you at all) and being unable to perform.

The little pills don’t always work either on your first few times using them, so there is a very real chance it won’t work, not to mention the fact everything about the situation is 100% false, you will feel it when you’re with the woman selling her body. She is just doing this “service” as a means of survival, these are some of the most broken people you will ever meet.

This one sexual experience could become the lens through which you view all future experiences.

I've been with multiple escorts / prostitutes in my life, at the time I felt it was what I wanted or needed but now I know I was just looking for a way out of pain, I now know I was simply perpetuating pain.

Don't go down this road

 

I'd look at your local/regional soliciting sex laws. Those girls, to get out of their own trouble, can work with the police. If you're in a place where it's legal, sanctioned by the state, the girls are provided healthcare, and it's economical- well, that's a different demon. Ordering some girl off some seedy website in the US is risky, man. I've looked, I've never tried. Be careful. Other men are routinely boring into that tunnel. Who knows what's been inside... STDS, drugs, violence, police. Those outweigh the risk of a little pleasure any day for me. If nothing goes wrong and you do the deed, she won't love you. You're just a another John.

Go watch Monster with Charlize Theron... you may reconsider. Any woman that sells her body for sex ain't really there, you know?

Drug dependence and prostitution:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7143150

 

Where exactly it say that? As far as I know it says no such thing.

It's simply not true, people have gone back to life after seeing an escort.
Here's a story of such a person:

 

No, as I said in @LeBlanc other thread I think it's a terrible idea and I was about to like your post but then you go on about the Bible.

Sure 1 Corinthians 8:15 says: Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! But it doesn't say anything about a person life being over if they do. It seems to me you're just adding words to scripture.

Here another video of someone who went to see a prostitute who came through it:



Of course it's best that someone doesn't see one but you can come back if you do. Sure, there will be consequences, but a persons life isn't over if they do.

 

That’s just like my pmo addiction too: reward yourself with something that will make you hate yourself. You’re here at nofap for a reason, most likely because you’re addicted to pmo. This “reward” your planning is going to worsen your pmo issue. It’s going to set up a fake standard for sex. It’s going to be your first experience with sex...and you’re going to pay for it! You’ll never forget this. Your setting up a horrible memory. Wouldn’t you rather have your first time with your wife or the woman you love?

This is no reward. It’s just your pmo addict once again influencing you to do something that will further entrench your soul in darkness.

Don’t. Do. It.

 

What makes you want to get a prostitute?

 

Hey @LeBlanc

Don't put yourself between too pressurising situations. Just make sure you make a well informed decision understanding the consequences to their fullest extent.

Now as per everybody's opinion, the experience you are seeking will harm your recovery. But given that, please understand nofap is also about keeping yourself in best mindset. As nofap is already quite strenuous, testing yourself won't help a bit not atleast after just a 30 day streak. Please try to take these things into consideration before going ahead.

 

Christ descended below all things.

All things.

Beneath all.

You are never impossible to redeem. All sin is death, large or small, if there is such a thing. We are always welcome back. He beckons. Turn your back on Sodom, on Babylon, on porn, on every evil thing. Set your face toward the light. We are all welcome in the good place.

 

@LeBlanc hey bud, checking in...a lot of people have made some good arguments in response to your original post...where is your head at at this point. Let us know we don't mean to drone on with opinions and personal stories just want to help support and advise you because this is a community with shared goals.

 

I’m a woman and um yeah. I am pretty open to things but i would not touch a guy who slept with an escort with a ten foot pole. I could get with a virgin though. This whole idea is horrible and so far from what I read as the purpose of NoFap I don’t even know where to begin.