How do I find a girlfriend?

Hey Lukas hows it going?

It's not so bad man I have met a few other guys who haven't dated till they were older. If you are shy, then it's time to realize that it's not getting you anywhere with girls. Work on yourself and start talking to pretty girls that intimidate you and you will get better over time.

Who cares that you use dating sites? Not even kidding nobody really cares that much about that and if they do so what? They are not you. If dating sites are a route you want to take to meet girls then power to you.

"Damn a stutter, yeah bro like there is noooo way you can get girls sorry!" -Guy you shouldn't listen to.
You should use your stutter as an advantage. What I mean is that the world is not going to forget you have a stutter so why try to hide it? Instead embrace the fact that you get nervous sometimes and have some trouble speaking. If you meet a girl that is attracted to you most likely she will not even mind. If she does then are you really missing out?

All in all my friend you have to just go out there and improve. Remember the only limits in life are the ones you believe in. You got this dude!

-TheBigBadWolf

 

To start, being 18 and never having a girlfriend prior to that is not ridiculous at all. I too am your age and I've never had a girlfriend before, mainly due to being homeschooled. If you were like 24 and you've never been in a relationship, then I would say that's quite the problem, but certainly not 18.

Do you go to school/college? Isn't there any girl you've seen before that you'd like to go out with? You can find one in everyday life, usually. For example, I frequent a music class that has lots of girls in it. My math class in college also has way more girls than guys. ( About 17 girls, including the teacher, and about 7 guys, including me. )

Just go to places where there's people and learn to approach and speak to one. I like to use whatever activity the girl is doing as a good starting point. For example, if she's reading a book, I'll ask her about the book after introducing myself.

Like you, I also suffered slightly from being shy. The best way to fight it is to just do it. Literally go do it. Go up to a girl you think is worth talking to and straight up talk to her. Just about something. Make a stupid joke. Compliment her appearance. Whichever, just do it.

I'm not the best at speaking verbally either, but it's important to just not care about that. I sometimes stutter or say something nonsensical, but it's important to just correct yourself and fall back on it with a little quip or joke. Besides, a girl ( a sane one ) isn't going to care that you stutter. Don't worry about that at all.

My advice to you is to start going out more. Take more classes ( if able ) and work on improving yourself and doing the things you want to do. The girls will come. But in order to actually get a girl you want, you need to be willing to go up to her and talk to her. And the best way to work on that is to literally do it.

EDIT: @TheBigBadWolf is spot on. Limits in yourself are things only you percieve. And as long as you believe them, they'll continue to be there.

 

I’ve always met women by working on myself and being open and social. I had a coworker that was really interested and I asked her why? Her reponse was “because you’re funny, cute, and know what you want”, so in a way your vibe will attract your tribe. People want to be around positive and focused individuals, and when I say positive I’m not saying people who smile every day even when they’re angry, since I’ve always been weary of those types. It’s more of a positivity where you have bad days but you don’t let those bad days turn into bad weeks or bad months. In short just be yourself but be happy being you.

 

Do I need a girlfriend I don't think so what would I do with a girlfriend

 

Never having a gf by 18 is not out of the ordinary I was 21 before I had my first gf.

15 years ago there was a stigma to online dating. If you're single now and don't have tinder that's considered more odd. (Online dating is a terrible terrible thing though worse then porn. If you treat it casually and only use it while you're taking a shit that's fine but otherwise it becomes a terrible obsession)
Unless you hang out at your local gym alot or bars it's tough to find a girl. If you can't be social at the places where it's easier to be social meeting a fucking girl at Starbucks is going to be alot tougher

 

One of my mates didn’t have a girlfriend until he was 24. Of course, he married her like 6 months later, but still. It’s not unnatural.

Don’t go out looking for girls, have them come to you. That doesn’t mean just being idle at home then suddenly getting a girl, that means doing what you enjoy. You may just then find a girl who enjoys similar things. This is why the old analog method works better than dating sites for many (and lets be honest: some “dating sites” are nothing more than hookup/affair sites/apps nowadays)

 

Go up to a girl and be like "Ay, wanna get some pressed juice?". Dude I'm telling you, it works every time.

 

Do what Chad does and you will land yourself a girlfriend.

 

^Exactly.

"What Would Chad Do?" should be your first thought in every situation with a girl

 

Watch this video, it'll help!

 

It was bound to happen. Eventually Trump was going to join this forum.

 

We're going to make nofap great again

 

And build a wall

 

Nice thread.

 

Not to dismiss your question, but honestly, if you're looking for a girlfriend, I think the best thing you can do is work on becoming the best version of yourself.

Hell, I'm 40. I have an enormous desire for a connected, exciting, sexual relationship. But I'm a lot more likely to get that if I focus on myself. If I start obsessing about the fantasy--if, instead of spending my time improving my own lot in life, I spent it compulsively browsing dating or hookup sites, I'd be more likely not to land the relationship I desire.

You have a better chance of hitting when you don't aim directly at it. It's just one of those things.

 

@SuperFan aren't you a divorcee and a sex addict? You have no problem meeting women. You've had one marriage (albeit unsuccessful) and hundreds of sex partners. I'm not saying the latter is something to be proud of but you seem to be in good shape when it comes to interacting with women. I agree with your post 100% though.