"Fake Confidence" OR "Confidence Even if everything proove the opposite"

Hey ASD,

Confidence is a mindset & a feeling you can get when you are 100% sure of something. "Faking till you make it" is a strategy that could be useful, but I don't believe there is a need for it. If you are not confident in yourself figure out why and prioritize fixing it. It's much better being confident for real than faking it just to come across as cool. Part of being confident in yourself is not caring about what someone thinks about you, that includes pretty girls too. If you are just starting out at talking to girls don't try to hide it. Instead embrace the fact that you are a "student" and go with the flow. The more and more you do it, the easier it gets.

-TheBigBadWolf

 

So for you Fake confidence is the act of '' doing as if '' ?

One principle that i found in a lot of book is that '' body and spirit '' are link.
Act Happy if you want to feel Happy.

I think this technique can HELP you to renforce your BELIEF that you are confident.
Its pretty much like incantation or affirmation , if you say something with enought repetition or emotional intensity it can influence you.
It will also influence how you think !!!! ( it also work in the opposite way ).

This is the théorie , i am more used to say that if you change what you think , you will act differently.
So i ask myself this question : Your trought , what you think right now '' will it give you the energy to act as if '' with full conviction ? ( or practice make perfect ? maybe )

I also love an other concept : To BELIEVE even when everything proove the opposite.
For me this is a very powerfull BELIEF ( because i only take the good part to renforce my belief )

 

fake confidence is nothing more than a type of acting and imo stems from insecurity and neediness. one of my favorite books (Models by Mark Manson) breaks this down amazingly well. to paraphrase, you develope authentic confidence by living a life with fulfilling hobbies that promote a better, more complete version of yourself. I can attest that focusing on yourself first makes you more measured and honest with your limitations. girl rejected me? No big deal, I'm focused on my development and my opinions first -- some random girl's opinion of me doesn't affect that. outcome independence = real confidence

you're dependant on the outcome, and that's because you're assigning more value to a stanger's opinion of you than your own. this is needy behavior. you can remedy this with fake confidence all you want, but at the end of the day, you're only covering needy behavoir with a tepid layer of bullshit, and high quality women will see through it every time.

 

Just try to hang out with women more, as friends even, just become more comfortable around them. They're just humans (without a penis) after all.

 

Find what insecurities are holding you back from being confident. Confidence is something that is natural not forced. Faking it is not a good idea as people will see straight through the bs. It is beautiful when a person is real cobfident and humble. Fake confidence to get women should not be the reason it should be to improve on yourself.

 

Fake it till ya make it.

 

It’s not needy to want a relationship with someone. If you obsess and feel it is the only thing in life that will complete you, that’s another story. Wanting to be in a healthy relationship is a good thing.

 

I think if you go around lying to women you'll get found out because isn't that what fake confidence ultimately is?
Build confidence naturally by doing something you thought you could never do like running a marathon or learning to speak a new language.
Maybe you should think about seeing a counselor as well.

Sure you could fake your confidence and you might get a girl but if she's a good woman she won't be around for long when she figures out you're fake.