I relapsed and made another sissy hypno mistake, what's going on?

Dude, stop. Stop watching weird hypnosis crap. Get rid of YouTube or your phone or whatever is causing you to just "randomly stumble upon" weird videos like that. You seem really concerned about the damaging effects these things might have on you, but not enough to stop watching them. Just put down your phone and read a book or something.

 

Quitting PMO and stopping yourself from thinking about sex or worrying about gender and sexuality will only help you in that. That's the best thing you can do. Just pull all of that mental garbage in the mental garbage can, and find something else to do with you time.

What are you passionate about? What do you like to do for fun? What skills or hobbies or character traits would you like to improve in yourself?

 

Ok, first of all, you need to calm down. From the sound of it, you are in the deep end of the porn addiction spectrum, if you've already reached hypno porn. I am well aware of how addictive that kind of pornography can be, and I first have to tell you this: Did you ever feel this way before you watched porn? I'm guessing the answer is no. Next, I am going to give you an extremely beneficial tip that I learned on my previous 89 day streak: Stay off the web. I know this sucks but you are going to need to give up: Surfing the web, snapchat, any other social media including twitter, instagram, and facebook. You also should not be watching youtube, or gaming at all. Basically the only reasons you should be online at all are to go on NoFap and schoolwork. Other than that you should be offline and spending time with friends and family. Now, I have one last question: Are you going to take your reboot seriously? Or not? Because your answer will determine your future. You don't need to tell me the answer to the last question, but just know what your answer is.

 

Yeah, I did. The real question is though, why were you watching any porn at all? To answer your question about feeling like a girl, I will say the choice is up to you. If you continue to watch porn, then no, you will always feel like a girl. (I watched the same kind of porn so I know your pain dude) If you stop watching porn and jerking off entirely then you will feel like a man again.

 

Trust me, I know. I'm only 15, so I am basically in a very similar situation. But one thing I learned is that if you become addicted to something, you are an addict for life. The only way to beat the addiction is to never do it again. Are you ready to never fap ever again?

 

Personally I disagree. Yes rebooting technically isn't to never fap again. However, I personally believe that you cannot fap without eventually ending up back in the same situation you started at. So in my eyes, the best option is to never fap again either.

 

Then stop watching porn for 90 days. Get serious about that and then see how you feel after that.

 

The only way to get over porn tho is to not watch it. I see people at 6 years clean who relapse.

 

Get serious about your reboot. Don’t watch porn, by any means necessary. I think the best advice is the get off the internet, get off tv, and social media advice. Don’t stay up late. Just go to bed. And if your want to feel like a man then man up and follow through with your goals. Don’t tell me or yourself how bored you’ll be with out internet or tv. Don’t tel your self how bad the urges are. Just do it.
You’ll get through it. It’s only an urge.

 

wowowowo ONE second.
All of you guys before you knew nofap, what did you do after pmo ? You certainly got back into ur activities, so just a point. When you relapse don't prevent yourself oh what you are doing, nofap is tool not a life changer, to change life you change COMPLETELY YOUR life and there is not only the nofap included to change it.
So even if you relapse Lpk797 continue your life and improve it don't feel shitty to pmo because the most important is to feel good in the head.
The mind is above the body.
PS: I'm not saying to stop nofap but to continue your life.

 

Nobody is telling this guy to not continue his life... that's the implied second step to quitting PMO. Obviously you will have heaps more time and energy to spend on other things.

However, for this particular person, I think it is terrible advice to make nofap seem like it's not too big of a deal and relapses aren't too big of a deal. He's clearly already telling himself that, and as @ReZen8ster said, he needs to man up and get serious.

It's incredibly obvious in this thread and others I've read from this person that porn is massively screwing up his mind, and probably his body as well. So yes, JUST quitting porn, even if he did absolutely nothing else productive with his life, would DEFINITELY change his life in a huge way.

It seems like you're getting defensive because you're taking people's advice here personally or something, but it's not meant for you. It's meant for @Lpk797, and what he needs right now is to stop making justifications for himself and half-assing his reboot and then expecting everything to magically get better immediately. He's dug himself into a really deep hole, and it seems like he's trying to get out if it by casually building one step of a ladder every once in a while, maybe. And then he's surprised that he's still in the hole.

In my opinion, what this boy needs is to temporarily make quitting PMO his top priority, and along with that would be stopping any sexual thoughts and fantasizing, and start building the crap out of that ladder until he gets out of this dang hole. If you're dying in a pit, but you also have other mental issues or emotional problems, you're not going to continue to sit there in the pit while you work out your issues with your mother. Getting out of that pit is your #1 priority, and for good reason. This needs to be his #1 priority right now.

That might sound drastic to you, but you're thinking about yourself and your personal experience with addiction. You probably aren't in as deep and dangerous of a pit as this guy is, so perhaps you can afford to be a little more chill about it. Personally, I'm all for telling people to chill out and forgive themselves more when they mess up and not take life do seriously. But in my opinion, from what I've read from this guy, he's not taking this seriously enough. He's casually mentioned watching a certain type of porn by accident and justified it by saying "well, I thought it was a different type of porn." The question is, why is he watching porn at all when he knows that these serious mental issues are being fueled by it, and he wants those gone? The only way to accomplish that is to stop.

I might sound harsh, but I'm just trying to help this kid who has gotten himself in a really bad situation and needs to recognize how serious this is and how important it is for him to get out of it. I dont think this guy needs more people saying "eh, it's okay to watch porn every once in a while or something, it's not THAT big of a deal." He's already telling himself that. And for him, yes, it really is THAT big of a deal.

 

Well put, I completely agree.

 

How many times a day do you watch porn? I just want to know what we are dealing with here.