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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by barnyjay, Oct 23, 2014.

  1. barnyjay

    barnyjay Fapstronaut

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    Hey All.
    I just want to see if theres anyone here that can understand where I am coming from.
    I am mid forties, happily married to my best friend, my wife. (18yrs) And have 3 children. I suffer greatly with chronic headaches and cannot have sex often, due to the pain and the exhaustion the headaches create. So I pro. to let off the sexual tension. I am straight, wanting to live a Christian life and keep going back to gay porn. Hoping someone will understand and be able to coax me on.
    This is the longest streak in a long time, and I am happy about it! But things are becoming difficult. The pull to see some guys stuff is strong, the sexual energy is building up and I tend to be irritable.
    I know this is real messed up, but any help is appreciated.
     
  2. UniversalSexGod

    UniversalSexGod Fapstronaut

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    First of all, welcome and don't feel like your alone. U have made the decision so that's half the battle won right there!

    Now some advice: the regular stuff.. cold shower, push ups, do something physical which gets your heartbeat going, meditation.

    Watch videos of successful nofappers, read about their success! Get yourself motivated and it will help you

    Another huge factor is knowing why your doing this. Watch the following video:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUWE...PSItzWvk_duv_g

    Subscribe to his channel. He is an inspirational guy who has successfully completed the nofap challenge.
    Watch other videos as well to stay motivated along the way. And also realize its not a challenge or something of that sort, it's a lifestyle change. Porn is not an option. There's no going back to that shit! Period ! At least for me.

    Also, don't focus too much on the target.
    Set smaller goals that eventually add up. Setting Milestones that is (E.g.10 days). Each time you reach a milestone you will feel better about yourself, and also you will be less likely to go back to the habit.

    If your main goal is 6 months, and you don't set milestones, at no point of time will you feel any sense of accomplishment. This is a mental thing. May not seem too significant, but trust me it is.

    I had gone 4 months fap free many years ago. This was before nofap. I just tried it for fun. A big part of my success was setting milestones and rewarding myself.

    Now with all the knowledge available as to why fappping is bad, it should make things a bit easier. Also knowing all the phases along the way helps. If only I'd known all this back in the day, I would never have fapped again.

    Realize this is not a sprint but a marathon. No guy has ever run a marathon successfully in the first attempt. Practicing running 100m, then 200m, 300m.... then eventually he builds his stamina to run a marathon.
    Unlike sprinting. It does require some patience. So keep that in mind.

    Also try EFT (Emotional Freedom technique), listen to some classical music, enjoy your day in anyway possible.
     
  3. barnyjay

    barnyjay Fapstronaut

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    Hey Universal.
    Thanks for the reply. I do feel so alone at times. But Thx for the encouragement.
    I will look into the video.
     

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