I am porn and sex addicted - I want to quit

Its just a big decision. If you have things to fill your day with, you wont have much trouble. Try to stay out of the house as much as possible. Be surrounded with people to avoid stimuli. Try chamomile and linden if you have trouble sleeping.
I'm on day 6 and i can feel the feel-good chemicals throwing a party inside my body and brain !!
I wish you success mate, and above all don't feel guilty or ashamed ( even if you relapse )

 

Few suggestions :
1.Try doing some meditation.
2. Before sleeping chant some mantra, or prayers and 10min meditation (especially if you watch porn while on bed, sleeping).
3. Abstain from your smart phone while on bed (extremely important).

 

Connection. Make sure you make it priority one.

All the best. You are on the most important journey of your life.
Look at my recent post.

 

Keep yourself busy. Get to know what triggers you, and avoid it like the plague.
It's doable, it's a journey with highs and lows, but you are on the right path. Stay strong.
Be gentle with yourself. You might feel anger out of nowhere, I got that. We're all in this together, and you are in the right site, buddy.

 

dude, if i can give u some advice.
it might be help you, it is some step :
1. Know when the trigger show up, whether it is in the morning,afternoon,night
2.where it is usually show up : in your room alone,bedroom,bathroom or anything
3.and when u got that trigger, go analyzing yourself more and said to yourself "i know what i thought" and make it infront of your desire to want to see that porn, it is for self realize for yourself, and also help the self control.
the step 2 is you should make an replacing habit for yourself, this is important thing because whatever and how strong your willpower, it will be wipe out if you use it so much.
example 1: you have a hard day in your college, u cant do your test so much even after you learn so much
example 2: u got stressful after you get yelled by your teacher,parent or other that blame you.
it indirectly can wipe out your willpower, and then you will want to go to PMO for gain instant gratification DOPAMINE hormone.
so the key is, u must replacing the old habit with the new habit, and get the same reward as the old one
example new habit :
when u realize ur urges, go to get out of your room and go excersice, running or go to gym "if it is morning or evening", or u can take old shower. i would like to recommend meditate too if you can focus on it, meditate is one of the most powerful things that we can do to improve our self realization and self control.
second is it is at night, and you left in your room alone, whenever you got urges go get some workout like push up, take some barbell or go take cold shower, and then make that phrase "i know what i thought" to help u realize yourself.
because one of the strongest things in human is habit, and the problem is habit cant different between bad and good.
if you can make good habit, it will being one of the most powerful key to make u wealthy,strong, or whatever do you want, and it only takes a little dicipline in early time, once it plant in our mind, it will be the power or the curse for ourself.
and the happy things is habit can always be change, even it takes some times and disipline in early time, But if u can gain it, it will being the one of the strongest things that can make you whatever you want to become without you need to thingking a lot OR almost auto pilot in our succes.
STAY strong and learn ourself man, and then make the change for our better future

 

It might sound harsh, but don't feel sorry for yourself. Just say I won't do it anymore and don't do it. I won't lie to you, it will be hell. I got terrible headaches, felt sick, depressed, anxious, mood swings like being bipolar... but things will become better over time when your brain chemistry reboots. You have even more PMO millage then I do (36 yo, started at 17), so expect long and difficult fight. I'm currently 93 days in "hard mode (no sex, no PMO)", been here twice before, and I can say things are slowly improving.

Start exercising on daily basis. Your body will be grateful to you and you'll get milder side effects in reboot.

Don't say to yourself, I want to achieve 30, 60, 90 days, say I'm done with PMO forever. Reward yourself for achieving time goals, but know you'll never PMO again. I've even decided I'm done with masturbation, it always leads me to relapsing. Don't expect miracles, just take it one step at a time, remember, even the longest journey starts with first step. PMO has crippled our motivation and desire to live. We knew how to enjoy life when we were kids, we have to relearn how to live fulfilling life once more.

 

Wow, that last part about PMO crippling our motivation and desire to live is very powerful. That captures just how important it is that we stay with it.
I can relate to the hell.
Start making connections, and celebrate them. I think it is great that you have decided to come to this site when you feel the urge to PMO. Each time you do that instead, you are forming connection. Try to expand your person to person connection points, either with people you already know, or new to you people. This isn't about sharing your struggle with them, it is about fulfilling that basic human need to connect. Think of it like breathing, because it is that necessary for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
Stay strong. We are with you in this endeavor. We have all been there before. It is possible, lots and lots of us are doing it. My personal time involved with porn was since I was 17.
Internet porn taps into the desire for a new source of stimulation. This retraining of the brain is largely about that. One good discipline is to practice enjoying the things that bring you pleasure, but are not constant bombardment of new stimulation. Something nature related will fit the bill here.

 

Really, really happy for you to have the experience of getting started, and having a success, re: going to sleep without porn. Keep us posted.

 

Well done, one night is challenging enough for some. You can do this, even if it takes a number of attemps. Even if you relapse, you learned a little more. Its not a failure, its just a speed bump. If you choose to use a counter, or pay attention to it, dont feel bad resetting it. If you find it depressing to reset it, dont use it. Good luck.

 

Sex addict too? So when you get the urge for sex you get a hooker?

 

So how do you find your female partner, at a bar?