I don't understand it.

It's good to think about why you watched porn. I encourage you to give the following questions some thought, even write the answers down somewhere.

Why do you watch porn?

If there's reasons to watch it, why do you want to stop?

How are you going to stop then?

Keep reminding yourself of all the things you need energy for. One hobby may not be enough, fill your schedule with things that you value. And set some goals and rewards to look forward to as this journey is hard with the withdrawals.

Don't be too hard on yourself, I haven't heard of anyone who did this the first time. And the old saying good things don't come easy is certainly true in overcoming this addiction, but many have and so can you!

 

Breaking the cycle by george collins. READ IT. if you truly want to get deep into the “why the hell am i doing this” thing, that book offers many many good points and exercises we can use to help us overcome this behavior. Im currently reading and doing these things myself and insee it helping

 

I'm glad to hear you're having better outcomes with therapy, I started seeing a therapist a few months ago and it helps me stay accountable just meeting a real person.

Without talking to a person in real life it was too easy for me to go into denial and live a lazy life for months at a time before something made me try again...

It does cost a bit, but it's an investment in something you can't put a value on

 

I'm 29 and have watched porn for 20 years I don't know how to stop. Dts why I'm here

 

don't hate yourself for it. don't attach yourself with the process at all it is dangerous to attach yourself and feel guilt. don't call it a failure call it a lesson. failure is a must in anything you do in life. every relapse is a lesson you need to learn to grow so relapsing makes you grow. start again and fail again but never give up because once you give up this would be the real failure.