To fap or not to fap

What to do? This is a tough one to answer. The easy but sadly rather unhelpful answer would be to simply say, "Don't Fap". Buuuuut that isn't really what you are looking for. What you are looking for is helpful encouragement.

I will attempt to help by telling you that a couple of days ago, nearly three now, I relapsed. As coincidence has it, it was after day 8, same as you. Luckily I only relapsed once rather than binging as seems to be the common thing. Anyway, after feeling great for eight days, and I don't just mean that I was proud of myself. I was REALLY feeling great. I had found that over the course of those eight days I was feeling more energetic, sleeping better than I had in years, and getting more done in my day.

Anyway, after feeling great for eight days, I suddenly felt like crap. I was disappointed in myself for relapse but what's more, I also felt dirty. I realize this sounds odd but it is true I felt dirty simply for doing something I had been doing for about fourteen years. The entire first day, after reset, was spent feeling this way.

Will you feel this way if you relapse? I don't know but why find out? Stay strong, find something to keep you busy or find someone to spend your time with as you fight through it. You can do it, just stay strong and, if it helps, remember the story I just told you.

Best of luck to you.

 

Damn. Just damn!

- VM

 

Tomorrow is a new day, bro. Let's you and me conquer the hell out of it. Then we'll work on the day after that, and then the day after that.

 

You will be oKay, as long as you didn't BINGE! Doing that will set you back to zero.

I ended up PMO once at day 14, two days later i was back to myself...so try to only fap once every two weeks or so. It's what I plan to do. Doing hard mode is every difficult for single guys.

 

The idea, as to be PMO free. If you fap once every two weeks are still giving into the addiction. Your brain will never reset until you can go without PMO completely. As with any addiction there will be times were it will be difficult but, every time you refuse temptation, you will feel like a winner. The idea is to say no one more time than your PMO addicted brain can insist that you relapse and go back to your PMO life style.

Is it hard? Yes. But it is worth it. And anything worth doing is worth doing right. You can beat this barnyjay. And we're here to help you.

 

And are you SINGLE?

 

Fair point. I am married.

However, I was single until I met my wife three years ago. And I can tell you exactly how PMO addiction progressed for me. I started with fapping once every few weeks, once every few weeks became once every week, and that became every day until I was fapping three or four times a day. I am not trying to attack you, nor am I saying anyone is right or wrong. My concern is that it is a slippery slope.

It is easier to stay clean when you are in a relationship and have a sex partner but it is also doable if you are single.

 

You were kind of right. I ended up PMO twice within a day.