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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by samuel91, Oct 24, 2014.

  1. Oct 24, 2014 #1
    samuel91

    samuel91 New Fapstronaut

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    First concious atemtpt to stop!! Need help

    Ever since my teens I always had a problem with porn & masturbation but I could control it most of the time, but since last 6 months it's getting out of control, watching porn hours at a time, without care for the time,place or occasion ( the night before the final semester project presentation I was up whole night watching, almost failed because of that). I have about 100GB collection of porn of EVERY DAMM category! in my hard disk

    Don't even get me started on the fapping. Started when I was 13 and never stopped, even when I was in a serious relationship!.

    Longest I held out was 15 days last year when I went on trip (only because, most of the trip I was driving and had to share a room with a friend who never slept), but now its become unbearable. Now I don't stop stop for anything or anyone. The count now is avg of 3 times a day ( on a good day!! ).

    Masturbation completely took over my life, today I probably am going to lose the most important people (my best friends of 8 years) in my life cause I lost my temper because they interrupted me and couldn't explain why I lost it. (They actually came to congratulate me on my scores)

    After the latest incident I decided I need help, after a brief search I came upon an article which led me to NOFAP.org, if anyone of you out there have any useful suggestions for me PLZ reply
     
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  2. Oct 25, 2014 #2
    BlackVelvet

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    Well my man, first thing first bookmark the nofap emergency page and also I applaud you for coming here. Welcome to Nofap I'll be your guide to this heaven we call the forums. Nice to meet you. Some suggestions: frequent this site! It really helps. Read other members stories it'll give you willpower as well as a feeling of not being alone. Also, you have to keep your mind off of everything sexual. Ride a bike, exercise, sleep do anything to keep away from it. I myself is following this. Actually just last night I was the only one awake and had a raging woody. I went to this site over and over and I haven't PMO'd. It's half this site and half willpower. But how will you fare? It's up to you. But know me and all the people here are rooting for you.
     
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  3. Oct 25, 2014 #3
    Raiden27d

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    Read Your Brain on Porn too. It's a great resource for understanding the addiction and helping yourself. Basically, It's bad juju, brah. You're straining your brain with spikes of dopamin everytime you PMO. The novelty of being able to click video after video and choose which to finish to rewires your reward circuitry. You get deeper in, progressively subscribing to harder fetishes. Give yourself time to reboot. A few months or so, depending on how long you've been at it and how bad. It's a mind game for sure, which is why I suggest learning as much as you can about it so you learn how to overcome it.

    The success section is a very good inspiration tool. I love hearing about all the "super powers" you get from not fapping, which is actually nothing but being normal and not energy sapped from the constant chemical processes going on inside your brain when you fap.
     
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  4. Oct 25, 2014 #4
    samuel91

    samuel91 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks guys for the support, I really appreciate it especially 'cuse it's been nerve wracking 12 hours, in them I realized how many triggers are in my life, every where I look in apartment I see them from the posters in my bedroom to the damm screen of my laptop, but as you said visiting this site and reading about the success stories helped.

    I'll also try to get the info on the behavior of brain in cases of porn addiction, I really don't have addiction for watching porn, rather I like the process of surfing and downloading, it's like when i see those pages my hand automatically moves. I only watch about 5% of data I download. don't know why I do it, but I just do it.
     
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  5. Oct 25, 2014 #5
    samuel91

    samuel91 New Fapstronaut

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    Umm... guys I'm new to all this just a small question what about intimate scenes in movies/TV series I regularly watch ?
     
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  6. Oct 25, 2014 #6
    IGY

    IGY Guest

    Today I probably am going to lose the most important people (my best friends of 8 years) in my life cause I lost my temper because they interrupted me and couldn't explain why I lost it. This sentence bothers me more than any other in your first post. There will be time enough to support you with all the sex-related stuff, Samuel, but to lose your best friends for 8 years! Do something about that today - now! Good, long-standing friends are gold. If you can tell them why, that would be amazing, but at least apologise and say something like, 'I've got serious issues I'm going through, but that is no excuse for how I treated you. I am so sorry. Please let me take you out to the cinema or some food or something.' Repair it mate, or you will never forgive yourself.
     
    IGY, Oct 25, 2014
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