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Stop blaming your addiction on external factors

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Dark_Lord, Mar 11, 2018.

  1. Dark_Lord

    Dark_Lord Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys, a common thing i've noticed here and that i may be guilty of myself is so many people are blaming everything on external factors. This is especially common among people who (like me) are suffering from femdom/sissy/cuck/... addiction. The amount of times i've seen conspiracy theories on here about 'feminism' or 'the government' trying to destroy masculinity is very often and this is not good. If we keep blaming our relapses on that, if we blame everything in our life on that we are missing a crucial part of recovery. The part where we come to terms with ourselves, the part where we see what behavior of us lead us to it. If you don't realise what brought you there you can't even try to do something about it. If you can't do anything about it you will keep relapsing. Face the monster inside you, come to terms with it and only then you can battle it. It's a part of you and it will most likely stay a part of you but if you put the monster in other places it will keep doing what it wants, there will always be a weak moment when you aren't ready for it. It is up to you if you know your enemy in those weak moments or if you will let it catch you by surprise.

    It is ugly and uncomfortable to look at the demons inside of us but in the end that's the only way to get rid of them. This addiction is evil, yes. People make money of us, addicts and that is evil too. But in the end it is us who do it, people make money on alcoholics, on drug addicts, on whatever addict you can find. We will always be easy targets to them even after our magical 90 days. Don't blame them for it, they are not the cause of your problem, they are nothing but leeches, feeding on the mess left behind by the monster inside you. Don't let the monster hurt you and the leeches won't have anything to feed on either.

    We are strong together brothers and sisters, do not let anything hold you down!
     
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  2. Yep you're right. I started getting into all this femdom stuff, and I was blaming all sorts of things different things...

    Anyway I stopped that approach, and now my approach is to abstain from PMO, work hard & work out to be come a real man in every aspect.

    Successful, fit, healthy, confident, etc... Fuck these lousy femdoms.

    At the end of the day their lives are troubled too. Come on think about how difficult it will be for them to socialize or get a parter - and the worry on their minds that eventually it will all come out about what they do & that their families/friends will find out.

    Femdoms are not really dominant people at all... They're losers.
     
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  3. Dark_Lord

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    Yes, i believe they are somehow victims too in this... They are addicted to different things than us but addicted nonetheless. First of all i heard they have a very lonely life, it's extremely time consuming and it must be hard to have that double personality. And well we, the people who realised the entire scene is wrong can break this cycle.
     
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  4. Of course - for them to know about these fetishes & things they too have got sucked in by it all. They may think that they are just making money from it, but ultimately they are exposing themselves to something that is going to be very damaging to them in the future.

    Plus, 2 of my girl friends actually do this thing (it pains me that they do it) but in real life they are genuinely nice people. The image they portray on camera and who they are in person are 2 totally different things. I'll also add that they make no where near the kind of money you might think they do. I was once under the impression there was a fortune to be made from all that stuff, but not at all - the competition is too fierce.

    And FYI these are 2 very popular girls that as a former fapper you probably know of. Don't get sucked into believing what you see on screen.
     
  5. Dark_Lord

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    I figured as much... I am just glad at this point i never got so far into it that i made into a lifestyle thing even though I had the chance multiple times to take this out of the comfort of my own bedroom... I never did and I thank God i didn't.
     
  6. You and me both!
     
  7. You have to take responsibility for your own self, I agree but it is not a conspiracy to say those two forces are very much trying to destroy the family structure and masculinity - tyrannical governments always have.
     
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  8. Stone_Richie

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    I have brutally confronted my "demons" time and time again only to find out there is none.

    I'm a smart guy with a very healthy mind and clean consciousness.

    I really do feel like transwoman pornography was pushed on me some how.

    I remember the first time I found out about transwomen, It was so random, I had no desire for t girls I didn't even know what they were, then one day somehow I found gia darling and the rest is history.
     
  9. There is nothing wrong with self control AND saying that pornography should be restricted. Pornography has nothing to do with free speech. In fact it is no accident that as pornography becomes more commonplace, political speech is restricted more and more.
     
  10. Same...

    The funny thing is, and it always sticks in my mind... Is back in college we had a little sex education talk and the guy doing the talk said "feel free to come to me with any questions you might have, no matter how weird you think they are, don't worry - we've all looked at transgendered person porn"...

    Everyone in the classed laugh as if to say lol no way... but it was a nervous laugh, as if he had uncovered something. I myself for one was sitting there laughing, knowing that I'd looked at it... And looking back I feel that now, so was everyone else in the class.

    The first transgendered person porn I seen was were the transgendered person had a bigger member than the guy and it felt "like a powerful female"... From there it led into femdom and everything for me... Crazy! I think there's a link though, trannys are like "extra powerful females" cause they have a dick and there seems to be such a huge connection from this and femdom/sissy... As you get sucked in by the "extra powerful female" making you her bitch.

    It distorts your mind...
     
  11. Stone_Richie

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    The femdom I got into was girls tying guys down and blowing/jerking them off.

    I actually did a femdom scene for a small porn site, three girls giving me hand jobs while yelling profanities about my weight and penis size at me.

    She said it was similar to a cocktail sausage if I recall correctly.

    But yeah there is a sissy fever plaguing this planet for sure, I'm sure there is a larger agenda behind it.

    Great work in overcoming these fetishes BTW, some guys slipped further down the road of sexual deviance then others and I have nothing but the highest respect and admiration for men fighting for their manhood back instead of letting it dissolve In the furnace of porn addiction.
     
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  12. Dark_Lord

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    The thing is it has become normal, many comedians joke about porn and transgendered person porn too. The taboo about it stands with people admitting it is best and seriously admitting they watch it. But on the other hands it is indeed everywhere, jokes about it left and right. Everyone knows it exists even if you never watched it, it is when you get deeper into that specific scene it starts getting more scary.

    I never meant there is no one trying to keep us in it, like i said they benefit from us being addicted. So they will do their best to keep us hooked on it but what i mean is that you are the only that can do something about your addiction. It won't dissapear because it is wrong, even if it became illegal i am sure they would still find ways to get it to us. Drugs is illegal, still many people sell, use and od from it.
     

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