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Does Premature Ejaculation get worse with a reboot?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by e8ight, Mar 13, 2018.

  1. e8ight

    e8ight Fapstronaut

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    Hey all,

    Since starting NoFap I've not had sex (and, to be honest, for several years before that too!). In the past I've had issues with coming quickly - not always, but often, sometimes not lasting more than a minute or two. This was sometimes wilful as I had a tendency to lose my hard-on, and rather than face the embarrassment of that, I would get my rocks off; sometimes it was pure selfishness. But then very often I just couldn't last for very long, and I was (and still am) ashamed by it.

    I've found that when I relapse this has got even worse. I try to last for more than a minute or two but am so sensitive I just can't. I had a period where I decided to start masturbating again so that I could work on it and made some progress, but it was variable.

    I'm pretty nervous about getting into a sexual situation and then blowing my load within 30 seconds, leaving whoever my partner is disappointed and me ashamed. I know that any partner worth having would be able to understand this if I can be open about it, and show that I am willing to work on this - but nonetheless the fear is still there.

    So I guess I have questions, as my model for sexuality and sex is pretty messed up and it would help to hear what other people's experiences are (other than the usual macho "I fucked her for 3 hours, made her come 20 times and she said I was the best I ever had" boast). Mostly though I want to hear from people who have been through this and have managed to overcome it and how they achieved it, particularly in the context of rebooting.

    As with all threads I start, I think advice is only helpful as much as it can be linked to someone's experience - I'm not interested in reading a re-hash of books, articles or TED talks (signposting to these is probably more helpful).
     
  2. I suggest you do Kegel exercises, regular testicle massages and take around 10 deep breaths everyday holding for 2 seconds before releasing . When I was 16/17 I used to last ages but at about 20/21 I was done in 2/3 mins.. done a lot of research and found these help the most
     
  3. e8ight

    e8ight Fapstronaut

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    Yup, been putting off adding these to my exercise regimen but think it's time to just do it! I'm kind of sceptical about how much difference they will make but I don't know until I try/

    Thanks man
     
  4. Herc

    Herc Fapstronaut

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    Premature ejaculation is my greatest problem. Though I usually ejaculate within 5-10 second from the start. I just hope that nofap will help me, as I was greatly addicted to porn.
    As far as I heard, you need to do reverse kegels, not kegels, for your premature ejaculation.
     

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