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Should I go hard mode ? please Help me

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by hotsauce720, Mar 20, 2018.

  1. hotsauce720

    hotsauce720 Fapstronaut

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    I got problem cause i feel that I should go hard mode but Im in new relationship with girl. She is virgin and Im scared to tell her that i wanna go hard mode, please help, or maybe should i go normal mode and it will be enough, I really love her.
     
  2. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    firstly you should worry about quit pmo for real and not relapse every 3-4-7 days.

    If you do that i think normal mode will not be a problem.
     
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  3. CrimsnBlade

    CrimsnBlade Fapstronaut

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    If you're in a new relationship, unless you're already having sex, the hard mode shouldn't be a problem. Just don't have sex with her. If you are, tell her the truth and tell her your situation. There's a chance she will really appreciate the honesty and want to encourage through it. Hard mode is a great way to beat this addiction.
     
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  4. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    btw being in a new relationship and avoid sex is a bad bad idea for me
     
  5. CrimsnBlade

    CrimsnBlade Fapstronaut

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    Can you explain why it's a bad idea? I'm not sure I understand the circumstances.
     
  6. I would leave PM and just have Sex.
    Sex has lotta benefits isn't the same O from M than O from Sex
     
  7. Hufflekid

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    I'm concerned that you said "new relationship" and "I really love her". How new is this relationship?

    If you can't be honest about Nofap with her you shouldn't be in a relationship. Period.
     
  8. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    i don't think a woman can feel comfortable with the idea of avoiding sex with her BF. First think she gonna think is that you don't like her, second is that you are weird.
     
  9. CrimsnBlade

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    I think that's a pretty big generalization. If a woman is that worried about it then she has her own insecurities that she needs to deal with. Sex shouldn't define any relationship.

    It would be her right to think you're weird I guess, but if she thinks that and gives you a hard time about it then it may not be that great of a relationship in the first place, and again, she's probably acting like that because of an insecurity. I think anyone who is in a relationship should be able to be comfortable in that relationship regardless of physical interaction.
     
  10. hotsauce720

    hotsauce720 Fapstronaut

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    thank U for answering, yesterday I told her about idea that i wonna go hard mode. I think that CrimsnBlade got right. Firstly she told me that hard mode is not problem for her, she wonna support me, she understand everything. I wonna stressed that we feel not only in love, i was in many relationship, sometimes long (3 years) sometimes shorter, and i never felt like this, We feel that our souls fit and this is awesome. I think thats the reason why she agree with this idea.
     
  11. hotsauce720

    hotsauce720 Fapstronaut

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    I can answer U in simple words, I never had problem with sex before, but i had chance one time
    with her please read this thread, i think u find an answer why we wonna go hard mode
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/spiritual-consequenses-of-fap.161972/
     
  12. just tell her the truth about your problems when the time is right. if she truly loves you, she will understand and she will stay
     

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