Really important question, i need your opinions, dying inside

Hello Макето,

Porn addiction works stepwise.

The more you get used to pornographic contents, the more you get bored of it, and feel like watching something newer, harder, sicker.

More scientifically speaking, receptors of neurotransmitters in your brain end up dying of hyperstimulation, which numbs your response to pleasure.

In brief, what used to turn you on doesn't make you hard anymore, and what was a kinky curiosity in the first place becomes absolutely necessary.

Please don't do what I did, stop your porn addiction before your brain achieves its maturity (at 20).

By doing so, you allow your brain to create new neural pathways for healthy things who will help you in the future.

By the way, porn can aggravate ADHD (inattentive syndrome) or create its symptoms, which can be really tricky to cope with once it's installed.

I personally realized I had ADHD without being able to name it though, when I was compelled to always come back to the previous lines while reading because I had an impression of confusion, that I couldn't clearly memorize the text as a whole.

I hope this gives you a better idea of what can happen to you with porn.

Feel free to reach out to me at any time.

Cheers!
TTMT

 

Then I just found out I have ADHD too because I do the same EXACT thing anytime I'm reading... I did not realize that was a tell of ADHD

 

You cannot be experimenting with instagram or bikini models or any sort on nofap. It just sets you back. My guess is that you are just in a flat line.

stay OFF the image searching, give it a few months your erection will be harder than it has ever been before if you just give your brain time to reset. Delete Instagram if you must, it is not really needed. Trust me when i say if you give it enough time you will see the results you are after.

 

Just because you can get it up without porn does not mean porn isnt effecting your erections. Id say it is in your case because you are not getting hard enough, this indicates to me that you need a full reboot, which may fix your problem.

Continued porn use would definitely make it worse, eventually you may just not even be able to get it up. There is never a wrong time to stop using porn as everyone that i have heard of has been able to be completely cured after some time.

 

Hello Макето,

Sorry not having been clear enough!

I think there is no such thing as PIED or total absence of PIED. I think to the contrary that, just like addiction itself, it is similar to a gradation of tones.
Do you think that someone becomes an alcoholic from one day to another? We are not talking about crack cocaine or some hard stuff which indeed would make you addicted in one time, because it is unbelievably powerful...

You may experience heavy erectile dysfunction during a normal sexual act with an actual partner, while your penis gets hard like mad while browsing porn erotic or porn pictures. So, it is not objective dysfunction, I mean, you just trained yourself to react strongly to SOME contents and progressively, you will just ignore all the rest, unconsciously considering it to be dull compared to porn.

And forgive me to insist on a point: my personal addiction to porn was more about searching for contents than actually looking at them.

I explain: I could sit in front of my computer for hours looking for a picture I could show on chats or similar things, and the picture could be very "soft".
In general, it was a girl alone taking an "amateur" (sorry to use porn vocab, I hate to do it) picture of herself, BUT I think the long hours of hardcore pornography I watched before made me just fantasize about: what if this apparently candid girl was doing harder stuff, or what if she was enticed to do it?

The sick character of my fantasies made me hate myself everytime I stopped mast*rbating, since I am actually revolted by the idea that someone normal, innocent, could be driven to be used as an object, and then find it normal.

ALSO, very important point, man: you have to stop your collector mode! This kind of perfectionism in obscenity in which you are constantly look for the ideal image, and stand in awe in front of it like it was an idol... I was a bit like that, and such "hunt" makes you litterally drunk — I can tell — to the point I could lose the notion of time in the process. And this time plays against both your mental and sexual health for sure!

@Dan84 : If you are experiencing such things, it is good I raised your awareness. Just imagine this could get much, much worse, and even make you feel you are unable to cope with a normal job because you cannot focus your attention on one single thing at a time. My nickname comes from this BTW, it's phonetic French meaning "everything in the same time", which actually leads to achieve NOTHING.

 

Check out some of the success stories here on the nofap forums about other people who has had similar problems to yourself. Nofap speaks for itself, you do it and your life gets quantifiable better.

Good luck with your reboot buddy i wish you all the best and rock hard erections

 

If you can get very hard with "bit titty pornstars", you are not impotent.
If you can get more or less hard whilse browsing "bikini models on Instagram", you are not impotent.
If you can get just a bit hard by mere thinking, you are not impotent as well, but please tell us what you are thinking about in these moments - is it porn-related?

The purpose of rebooting are multiple, but I guess the first one is to be able to turned on in a healthy and active way with an actual girl (if you are heterosexual), without being obliged to be in a state of what I call "depersonalization", which is to be a spectator of oneself, to think about people or scenarios which are absolutely unrelated to the present moment, in order to be able to feel pleasure, such depersonalization becoming in the end some kind of mental disorder.

You mustn't think "performance" at all. You don't have to perceive yourself as a machine, otherwise you'll just get back to what turns you on the most, and you PIED will just worsen over years, until you get completely desperate about it.

If you are not in a relationship, just forget about being able to have an erection, because this anguish will only make things trickier. This is a question of mentality: your sexual potence has to be a tool helping you to reach a certain state of harmony with your future partner. Even if it is not the case now, even if you are not dating anybody, overthinking about it won't be a solution in my opinion.

For God's sake, you are too young to be so pessimistic, man! I'm ten years older than you and have spent half of my life so far in porn addiction and I can get back to a normal sexual life after all this! If you cannot at not even 16, I don't know who else can.

Feeling a kind of lack of interest about sex while rebooting is completely normal! It shows that your brain is craving for porn, and wants it so hard that it makes you lose motivation to all the rest. If you keep on refraining from watching porn and also from searching for sexy pictures (it is not as harmless as it seems!), you will slowly recover your interest in relationships with the opposite sex and be turned on again by more common, non porn-induced stimuli.

Please give it a shot.

Yours sincerely,
TTMT

 

Coming from a 15 year old guy like me, that sounds like some sort of ED. Your brain is probably so addicted to PMO, that you only get aroused by images on social media. Try to avoid social media and see what happens afterwards

 

Ah now I see it "tout en même temps"
And yes I'm recent years, I have been struggling with focus issues and dimishined drive at work, I mainly find it hard to focus, especially early in the day. I refuse to get medicated and I hope there is an organic alternative or solving the root cause of the issue (if nofap helps in the long run, with regaining some focus and clarity for example)

 

Okay, now I think we have given a lot of time to try to answer you and help you, and I'm sorry but you are writing in a very immature way, which is normal though for a 16-year old boy...

I told you very clearly that you DON'T have ED or PIED, as I have read that you can get it up.

What I'm telling you is to stop porn, and searches for erotic images (like on Instagram and so on), in order to put an end to the artificial, virtual stimulation you have briefly experienced, which only leads to escalation towards an increase in hardcore (the contents itself), length (how much time you spend watching) and frequency (how often you will need to come back to it because of cravings).

After that, we are not doctors or biologists, I'm very sorry, so if you are not satisfied whereas you haven't even tried the solution we offer you (which is a serious reboot), go and help yourself, God will certainly help you.

End of the line.

 

Of course, the age is on your side! You are 16 years old, if your awareness is raised right now, you've just spared yourself a huge amount of time, which you would have spoiled for nothing, to the detriment of your physical and mental health.

Please keep in touch if you have any other questions..
TTMT

 

The only thing I can tell you right now is to be patient, and not short-sighted, as most young people are.
Just think about building your own future, the rest will follow, trust me!