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I'm alone...

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Deleted Account, Mar 25, 2018.

  1. Hi friends! Not long ago i started using NoFap site and it helps me a lot. It's so good to see other people struggling with this menace, thinking in the same way as i do, help and encourage them. I'm struggling with PMO for about 4 years. During these years i lost many friends becouse of this addiction. It got difficult to communicate with other guys, even my peers. But situation with girls is much worse. I'm really afraid of speaking with them. I tried for many times but that was unsuccessful. It's difficult to imagine but one time i even had one real date with a pretty girl but that was also bad and she forgot about me after that. All my attempts to try speaking and further actions failed. Not long ago i've lost my last friend... I have nobody even to speak with. That's awuful... I have nothing but everyday urges. Lot's of people said living without PMO will help you but it didn't. I don't know what to do... Somebody, help me!
     
  2. Hi, I'm Autumn. I wrote something very similar to this 5 days ago. I too have been addicted to porn for the same 4 years, I too lost many friends (I have extreme social anxiety, even online) to the point were I felt depressed and alone all the time. Its a struggle but don't give into your urges. NoFap dosen't magically fix everything but its a step in the right direction. (Also I'm still looking for an AP partner)
     
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  3. potato bop

    potato bop Fapstronaut

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    We can be APs if you want. I've been looking for one as well.

     
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  4. potato bop

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    Hey man, I totally understand where you're coming from. Quitting PMO is great but it isn't a cure-all. I have social anxiety still, but the majority of it was overcome through therapy and opening up to various people about traumatic experiences. There may be deeper issues than PMO that are causing your inability to make friends. I would suggest seeing a therapist, or at least realising NoFap isn't just about quitting PMO. It's about making lifestyle changes as well and that being on a streak won't magically get you friends; that's something you need to directly work on while maintaining your streak (although PMO helps ofc). Hope this helps.

     
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  5. unk45d3

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    I totally agree with what @potato bop says. You're making steps in the right direction, but situations other than PMO use are making things seem bad. You're not the only one going through this though, and we can all get through together.

    When circumstances around us get better, we feel uplifted and we have a chance then to start improving all the aspects in our lives. When situations get us down, we try to lean on the things that made us feel good in the past. If you feel as though your friends have left you then, of course, PMO is going to be at its most tempting.

    Things will get better, perhaps slowly, but they will. In the past, when my anxiety was at its worst, I was convinced that all my friends had left me and my family members never truly loved, and you can bet I leaned on PMO in those times (along with alcohol, drugs etc.). But I found that I somehow had more strength than my situation led me to believe, and I think you will too.

    I'd say that you're doing okay. You're making steps in the right direction by talking to people about it, especially in such a welcoming, understanding community as this. Have you spoken to a physician about the way you feel?
     
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  6. LonelySunshine

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    @Sleax18 have you tried acting confident. Not faking it but actually acting as if you were an actor playing the role. Now we have all seen bad actors who overcommit to their role and it simply turns out cheesy or fake. But then you have brilliant actors who you can't even tell are acting. It seems like they are living the role.
     
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  7. Thanks for the help guys! I'll analyse my situation better and try to change my lifestyle as much as i can. I'm really feels better
     
  8. No, i haven't spoken with somebody about my problem in real life. I think i'll do this soon
     
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  9. A really quite interesting advice. I'll think about it and try to feel like an actor. I'll struggle with this
     
  10. unk45d3

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    It takes a lot to do! Just know that when you do, you've come a long way through the journey of healing yourself.
     

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