Hello

I am a 33 year old academic struggling with some issues and could use guidance. I may be a non-typical NoFap user because I do not have a pornography problem. I have used pornography before but I was always wary about getting addicted and so made my use rare enough to avoid this. However, I do have masturbation problem (or did). I have masturbated regularly since I was a kid. And when I say regularly, I mean about twice daily. And I was using prone masturbation and other rough masturbation techniques which I have just discovered is very bad.

(Aside: How come I just, as someone about to have a PhD, learned about this? It seems a major failure in education. My parents told me not to masturbate ever for religious reasons. But then I ceased to be religious. It never occurred to me that there were serious secular reasons until very recently. End tangent).

I have not had very much sex in my life and when I have had it's been disappointing with not much feeling. I've not had any very good relationships, and this was a contributing factor. It's not just that I didn't feel what I wanted to, but my partner would feel insecure, like she wasn't good enough or something. I wasn't sure what was going on, attributed it to nervousness on my part or something.

But for some time now I haven't felt any sensation at ejaculation. Now I have little sensation leading up to that, too (unless I engage in prone masturbation, then I get some, but still no climax. I don't know when that stopped, but I think it was years ago. come to think of it). I have been using the Men's 1 cream and that helped restore sensation when I was still using prone masturbation, but not if I try to get off in any other way. (I can ejaculate, but it's really hard and doesn't give much sensation). I've only stopped doing the rough masturbation for a week or so, so not very long at all, and I've been masturbating less frequently, as in once every two days instead of twice a day. Just slowing down like this makes my balls hurt.

Anyway, I really want to be in a happy relationship with a woman that includes sex of the kind I used to fantasize about, and still do, which would be really satisfying. But now I fear that might not be in the cards for me. It might be too late. And that's a really painful thought because a relationship like that is pretty central to what I want out of life. I'd like reassurance if there's any to be had. But if this is my lot I guess I need to face reality. I hope I am in the right place. I don't know where else to go.

 

No not yet. I should though.