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What do I do about my life?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Lonewolfpt, Apr 1, 2018.

  1. You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s ok. Life is just beginning for you. The past is exactly that...the past. You have time on your side but I think you should give yourself a break. Life is hard period and you should be especially proud that you survived what you have. Not an easy feat. Dealing with all that at ANY age is difficult in its own right.

    I was bullied too growing up, depression, plenty of anxiety, the list goes on. I’m still here though. Keep going on friend. We’re rooting for you.
     
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  2. CELIBACY_GUY

    CELIBACY_GUY Fapstronaut

  3. Lonewolfpt

    Lonewolfpt Fapstronaut

    Thank you for your support Eddie-Moscone-BB.

    It feels good to read those comfortable words. I indeed have the time in my side. But not giving myself break (physically, mentally, emotionally) has been really therapeutical for me. Forcing myself to suffer has been making me feel good.

    And bullying is really harsh for a kid, it destroys the self esteem and people get "traumatized" for life. But its possible to overcome it. And we are together fighting for that.

    Do you keep a journal?
     
  4. No problem at all. That’s awesome you’re pushing through at this early at an age. Keep going, you’re already ahead. It’s true bullying can destroy self esteem but it doesn’t mean it can’t be built up again. I do keep a journal but I should use it more often. It’s always amazing when I do read past entries and realize how different my thinking was at that moment in time.
     
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  5. Lonewolfpt

    Lonewolfpt Fapstronaut

    I always try to read other people's journals.

    72 days for you, great! Your so close of the 90 days achievement!
     
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  6. TenderCrisp

    TenderCrisp Fapstronaut

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    Hey @Lonewolfpt ! Just read through this thread and wanted to send you some blessings, love, and motivation. You seem like such a cool and chill dude! I get real good vibes reading your posts, beneath all that talk about what's wrong with you and/or your life. You are an amazing human being and you've come so far. We're all here for you and I hope you know that. You will find friends again, you will make it through this.

    Sometimes, when you're in a very dark place, it may look like you've been buried.
    But what if you've been planted?
     
  7. Hatfuge

    Hatfuge Fapstronaut

    There are a few hobbies I would encourage you to develop
    Meditation it does wonders for your body and mind
    Weight lifting same as above really, you'll become much more confident in yourself
    also start to do cold showers and check out Wim Hof to speed up your "cold" journey.

    These are three things that would build your character and make you less dependent on other people

    You'll learn how to thrive on your own and you wouldn't feel so lost whenever people leave you.

    Also I would encourage you too take action on what the dude in your profile picture says, become much tougher! ;)
     
  8. Lonewolfpt

    Lonewolfpt Fapstronaut

    TenderCrisp thank you for the kind words man. You also seem like a great person. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a nice person because “And, in the endThe love you takeis equal to the love you make.”
     
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  9. Lonewolfpt

    Lonewolfpt Fapstronaut

    Hatfuge thank you for the reply. Indeed Goggins is a huge inspiration for me.

    I have been seriously exercising but I cant afford a gym membership so I mainly do bodyweight exercises.
    Cold Showers: check
    Meditation: if you have some video tutorials it would be great
     
  10. Hatfuge

    Hatfuge Fapstronaut

    If you search Bill Harris on youtube you find a guy who has developed some technology that could help you a lot.

    also check out "Osho dynamic meditation" and Osho in general, he speaks on a lot of topics around meditation, and self love. Osho's teachings has greatly shaped my life.
     
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  11. Thanks but I forgot to change that here. I relapsed a few times last week but I’ve been hitting streaks with no pmo for a week at a time. Since tracking this on Brainbuddy I’ve hit 94 just not in a row. It still does make a difference I’ve noticed.

    I highly recommend meditation. The nice thing about it is that you can find a way to meditate that works best for you. For me I listen to recorded sounds of the ocean or rain or I’ll pray. Usually I combine them. That’s what’s kept me grounded many times and helps me slow my thoughts
     
  12. thelasttruthtold

    thelasttruthtold Fapstronaut

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    Maybe you can pursue an a new interest or hobby where you can build your self -esteem and be part of a community where you can meet a wide range of people. . I have recently accelerated by interest in running where i have joined a running event organization where they hold races every weekend; 5k and 10k. Being part of the running community has helped with the battle to avoid PMO combined with helping with my self-worth, esteem, sense of achievement and anxiety. Most importantly it has given me a purpose ; also a more respectable identity than being a porn addict. Plus i have made some good friends where we encouraged and support each other other during the races and outside on whatsapp or facebook. I strongly recommend if you can find an interest you can immersed yourself in where you can find similar benefits. Good luck. Keep strong
     
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