man charges woman for date after she ghosts him

https://www.yahoo.com/amphtml/lifestyle/man-sent-date-invoice-ghosted-101419195.html

curious what you guys think of this

some guy takes a girl out on a first date where they get dinner and drinks. afterwards the girl decides she doesn't want to see him again, and promptly ignores all of his texts/calls for a second date. a few weeks later, girl receives an invoice from the guy charging her for half the costs of date ($40), which got a lot of attention online

the girl followed up on twitter by saying, "Cracks me up how people instantly are like, ‘well why didn’t YOU text him back??? You just wanted a free meal??’ YOU AS A WOMAN ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO GIVE A MAN ANYTHING IN EXCHANGE FOR A CHEAP DINNER".

is the guy at all justified to charge her for the date if she doesn't bother to tell him she's not interested? should a girl at least give a guy closure if he spent 80 dollars on a date?

 

I wish I could charge some of my dates who ghosted me, later on. I would be quite rich right now, that's for sure.
But, I had to pay, for being such a sucker!

 

While I don't condone her behavior, his is childish as well. If you chose to pay for her dinner, that was your choice. You can't take that back because she didn't give you what you wanted afterward. It's not like they had some kind of contract that said she had to give him something in return for him buying her dinner. He needs to grow up and realize that next time, if he is only buying her stuff to get something in return, don't. Split the check. Buying someone dinner is essentially giving them a gift. You don't just take gifts back because the person didn't give you anything in return, and if you do, that's childish.

If I were going to buy someone dinner, i would do it with the mindset of that being an unconditional gift. I bought her dinner, and whatever happens after that is unrelated. Buying her dinner was my choice, not her demand and not a quid pro quo. She didn't promise him anything. Is it crappy of her to ghost him? Yes. But that doesn't mean he can demand she pay him back for a gift he willingly decided to give her, with no promise of anything in return.

Lesson to guys, if you are gonna be pissed about paying for her dinner if she doesn't end up wanting to date you forever or something, then just don't do it.

 

My suggestion:
Don't get dinner on a first date...go coffee or a drink...and close out. Then I like to try moving locations to see if she is actually interested, its also in some ways like a second date.

Had an odd one once that seemed weird and pissed off when I said lets close out and insisted on having another drink there. Zero chemistry...akward scattered conversation, another round..showed me a tattoo that said cunt on her lip. Disappeared to the bathroom and waitress came over with our check, saying the girl said I would close out. Girl did come out of the bathroom to confirm that I had settled the tab and then said good our uber is here.
So you can get lucky if you pay...but definitely had more luck with girls who split or buy the next round and saved a lot of $$ and time on skipping meals

 

Sounds like the story of my life in my teenage and 20s still I learned a thing or to , painful to read If I got mad and sent a bill for the many bad dates and being ghosted I had happen to me in my teens and 20s , I would have owned the restaurant bye now lol wow talk about a guy who is still learning the ropes of dating ouch

 

Women never do that women always take the easy road of ghosting someone when in those situations. its not nice or polite but its the dating game it happens . my question is why would you care about someone who treats you like that ?

 

I've literally never done that in my life, but okay.

 

get her boys!!!

 

Now now you two (@CassTeaElle and @HatePorn) simmer down now...no need to hate. I think most guys can empathize with getting ghosted by a gal while most gals have been in the position where a guy feels entitled to something for paying.

I think the guys invoice is a hilarious commentary on society and prolly intendes as a joke (with a little frustration). She prolly thought it was a great way to point out poor social skills some men display and get a lil Instagram attention too. Both a little immature, but hey I encourage immaturity as long as noone gets hurt...being an adult all the time is no fun. I take any opportunity I can to be an oversized kid

 

I agree with this. this guy would have to have some immense social ineptitudes to think that this girl would take the invoice seriously. but you never know

 

Just curious did you mean pretty or petty...?

Also would it be petty of me to complain you didnt call me pretty?