I'm about to leave nofap forever !

Hey YoJesse I was in the same boat as you. I was like 24 when I lost my virginity and I always told myself that if I got a girlfriend I would stop PMO. That was just a lie I told to myself, it worked for about a week but then I started craving that variety that porn gave me (turns out after so much PMO I liked Porn more than real sex).

Stay strong and set a goal for yourself to get a girlfriend but also keep trying to go PMO free, it can only make you a stronger person!

 

We need a few more details of your situation to try to help. What age group are you? Are there no available females in your school? Do you have impossible "standards" for females? How do you approach women to talk with them? There will be no magic to bring you a girlfriend. You have to find a girl that is interested in you, and start talking to her. Let us know...

 

You really hit the nail on the head when you said after PMO you liked porn more than real sex. Believe it or not, I feel the same way. I am married to a beautiful wife and I just feel "lazy" to have sex. I prefer masturbating. But all that is about to change from today. *fingers crossed*

 

DON'T EVER GIVE UP!

"Pain is temporary. It may last for a minute, or an hour, or a day, or even a year. But eventually it will subside, and something else will take its place. If I quit however, it will last forever."- Eric Thomas

Your preconception that most guys on here have girlfriends or are married is not the case. In fact it's quite the opposite. We're here because we want to eradicate PMO from our lives. We're here because we want to improve our relationships to those we're attracted to.

Take me. I'm lonely. I don't have a girlfriend! I'm a virgin. I've never even kissed a girl. But I'm here every single day because I'm determined to give myself the best chance I have at life. I'm determined to improve my ability to interact with women, and I only know I can do that if I eliminate porn and masturbation from my life. I have to complete my nofap challenge before I even consider asking a girl out say, let alone having sex.

You should never need porn! You should never need masturbation! You are going to have to find some other way of channeling your sexual energy and sexual tension.

Peace
NoBrainer

 

You're Not Alone Mate.Several Guys are Virgin out Here and Struggling with this addiction Including Myself.a Great Example is "Squeaky Soul". He's 16 or 17 and has tons of Work to do in the school. Despite the Work,He Is Clean for More than 250 days.Isn't that a Motivation for You? Stay Strong Buddy,God is Preparing you for Your Relationship with your future girlfriend using NoFap.

 

I'm in my mid 30s and I've never had an intimate relationship before. I've never even kissed a girl on the lips. Does this cause me a grief and turmoil? Yes, it does.

As of now, I'm about 22 days in on this journey and I'm not going to lie, I've got my ups and downs. When I say down, they're really down. And yes, I've also thought about relapsing and what else can I do with my needs and desire, as they continuously build up - especially if I can't find anyone. There's even a likely chance that my fantasies will start to appear.

I know, not much of a good news, but what is it that keeps me going with this journey?

The supportive people around here, despite some of our differences in approaches and ideas.
If I should fall, I shall pick myself up again and genuinely want to walk this path again.
To rid myself of the addiction or at least minimise it, even if the desires are there (the natural desire still exist, as we are humans after all).
To regain my energy and time, and put them to some good use.

It's not an easy journey and it can be rough going. Just about every day and night, I'm haunted by doubts, fears, loneliness, self loathing and whatever else. Nonetheless, with whatever strength I have, I will try to get up and keep going. Some days are easier than others.

How long will this last? I do not know. I can only take this a step at a time.

My suggestion for you is to figure out what can give you meaning in your life. It doesn't have to be anything incredibly out there. It just has to be something you look forward to or even something you like doing that isn't destructive.

You can also try no PMO for a few weeks and then add some more weeks. See how you go. During that time, don't worry about getting dates or finding a partner. When you feel ready, you can use that energy from no PMO to get into the dating scene.

Yeah, that's the difficult part and I'm still trying to figure it out.

Hang in there.

 

If you really need the release just focus on giving up porn for now. Deal with the fapping later. Give yourself some credit for the success you achieved over that period. Don't be hard on yourself, try your best, but accept that you will make mistakes.

 

I agree with fapperoo. If you have to have a release do it without porn. You don't need porn that is bullshit and watching it is going to keep you from being comfortable around girls. If you can't have an O without porn that should tell you something. Before I gave up porn I could no longer get off without porn. After 10 days no Pmo I could have used sandpaper while M and still had an O. Haha. But seriously make small attainable goals and build on them. As you prove to yourself that you can set your mind to so
Something and achieve it, your brain will rewire itself with those wins. You will build self confidence, and that is what women find incredibly sexy. When you are comfortable and confident in yourself trust me finding a girlfriend will be no problem at all. Get those small wins under your belt and realize that you are in the driver seat.