The high standard

I think the problem for me was that porn warped my view of women but in the opposite way. The minute I stepped out the door I would want to have sex with literally every woman I saw. Porn makes me think that sex is all women are good for and that is a really shitty view to have, big reason I want to quit forever

 

I've noticed that since starting NoFap I've begun to think of woman differently. Instead of having sexual thoughts about them I have more random thoughts now that have nothing to do with sex. I imagine how they'd fit in to my life in general.

 

right a vortex of lies build up in many years.

sadly lost the connection to reality.

 

I've never been with a girl and would never have known that. Thanks for sharing that. That's another thing I need to unlearn from porn.

Man, we really need to reconnect to reality.

 

I've noticed that I have incredibly high standards. Most of all, I value a pretty face which is why I think I'm strange.

As all my pals talk about women with banging bodies. To me I don't get this, it's all about the face which is probably why I'm obsessed with oral sex, but then I thought most guys fast forward to the 'money shot.'

Porn has definitely warped my expectations, but I'm thinking if I don't fancy a girl why would I even bother entertaining the idea of a relationship. Perhaps this is where I'm going wrong.

After abstinence I've noticed changes though. There's this girl I work with and she isn't great looking, but just everything about her now, sends me to cloud cuckoo land. I guess this is unhealthy because she is perhaps the only girl in my life I see on a more than constant basis and I've probably become infatuated by her. I've had so many fantasies about her in my head and it is this exact behaviour that has caused me great grief and heartache in my past - it also doesn't help that she's taken.

I know relationships are based on appreciation and value of women and their 'personalities.' This is the first girl in a while where her personality has me attracted to the max and not based on looks. In some respect it is one step in the right direction, in other respect it is unhealthy because of my fantasy with her.

Hopefully, as I abstain longer, I won't ever objectify women in this again as it never leads to relationships, just fantasy and lust. A fantasy that I know most women/girls can never be.

Porn helps us objectify women, and this is bad.

 

I really don't know. Is it better to have a fantasy about someone we know rather than someone we don't.
I think any fantasy is bad, probably worse when it is a girl who you work with, who is already taken, and I'm just thinking about doing 'all crazy things to her' even though she is taken.

At this moment- I really can't say. I mean there is this OTHER girl, at the moment who is 150% interested in me, but she's fat and not that great looking at all. But I'd rather do fuck all about it , half of my brain is telling me wait until you've reached your 60 day goal then you can have a great porn binge.

The other half is telling me, get on the relationship ladder. OK she's not someone you would want to be caught out with but, hey this might actually be a good learning experience.

Porn has got me so fucked up I can't even begin to entertain the idea of dating her! Maybe after 90 days I sincerely hope something changes in my mindset.