Early Stages Advice - Veteran Wisdom Needed

Alright folks.

So I'm nearing the 72 hour mark and haven't really had any urge to break the newly founded streak. I don't feel much of a difference yet, but obviously it's very early in the game.

The girlfriend (of 3 months) and I went out and got Mexican and had a couple of margaritas last night. We got back and made out on the couch for a little bit and I had like zero desire to have sex even though we would normally have "gotten down." She eventually went home and i watched the hockey game (go Preds!) and fell asleep.

A big part of my motivation to go porn free is to shed myself of the shell that seems to block my ability to have real intimacy with the opposite sex. Anyone else experience a lack of sexual intimacy with a significant other in the early stages of a reboot? How long can I expect it to linger? Please share your wisdom.

 

Thanks for the perspective. I'm hoping that sex will start to feel less like a chore as it does now sometimes. Probably not something the majority of guys say, especially when in a fairly new relationship. sigh...

 

Thanks for the support ya'll. We are going out tonight, so we shall see where we end up on this front.

Also, prior to this one, I attempted rebooting about 2 weeks before and lasted approximately 5 days, so maybe that's why I'm experiencing these feelings so suddenly. Or... I guess there is always the possibility that I'm not that sexually attracted to her

Will update on tonight's shenanigans.

 

Update:

Great date last night and great sex and intimacy with the girlfriend last night before bed. 5 days porn free and already feeling the massive benefit of better "real life" sex. I'm hoping i can stay true and keep choosing reality over a computer screen!

 

I think my issue was porn started detracting from my sexual energy/desire with an actual person (just ask my ex-wife). If you fap 2-3 times daily to porn, there is not much left for having sex. Because of that, sex felt like a chore, and I was just going through the motions in order to try and make sure the girlfriend was pleased and felt connected. Sometimes we would have sex in the morning, she would leave afterwards, and i'd fire up the computer and PMO.

To me, apart from making tiny humans, sex should be an intimate experience, sometimes passionate, which helps strengthen a relationship. When one person is in a different mindset (as i was) it can have the opposite effect.

I'll let you know in 6 months what it is for me then, but I'm hoping it will keep getting more an more "real" as i distance myself from the negative effects of 2 decades of porn.