I think I get it!

you are right, are there any other things you want to do instead now that you have more time?

 

thats a good idea for the start.

 

This is awesome @Grue and congrats on your work.

My personal advice is for you to try and understand your dependency’s underlying issues. It tends to look like it’s just a chemical addiction and buzzwords such as “dopamine”, “serotonin” and “happiness hormones” that get thrown around a lot make it seem like it’s all there is to it. I think that porn is far from that. Most forms of dependency hide a more essential discomfort in life, soothed by the poison of choice. It is in our nature to seek comfort and a soothing action, it is why we seek shelter (kid running to mom), peace (vs. discord), protection (vs. anxiety and worry) and acceptance (true love). We look for ways to make ourselves feel better, even when it doesn’t hold for long. And that is the first problem with porn - it’s a fake solution to our deepest needs as humans. A damn pacifier.

How do we begin to drain PMO’s power? By understanding that somewhere, somehow, we have a need we need to acknowledge and own before we look for good and honest ways to supply it.