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Hello mates - my countdown starts NOW

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Flaming Hydra, Apr 28, 2018.

  1. Flaming Hydra

    Flaming Hydra Fapstronaut

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    I'm not a big fan of vBulletin-themed forums but this one is an exception because of your noble endeavor. Here's a shout out. I need support from all of you.

    I'm 34. Been addicted to masturbation and pornography my whole life. Always wanted to quit this filthy habit of mine. It's really about time, friends.

    I don't want to go too much into my past but just wanted to say that I really never started masturbating till I turned 23. I was academically inclined and finished my University degree with Honors. All my roommates and friends were addicted to masturbation but not me. I did have an occasional wet dream back then but that's just normal.

    Back then, my elevated mind was completely into studies and cultivating good hobbies.

    I really feel like a fallen angel ever since I discovered this secret, dirty pleasure. I can't focus on the things that matter. My concentration levels are droopy.

    Without boring you any further, I have just decided to start my NoFap countdown right now.

    This means:

    1- No more touching the penis with my hands (except during shower, but not longer than necessary.)
    2- No more Internet porn or titillating websites
    3- Avoiding women for 30 days (It'll be temporary. Back when I did not masturbate in the past, I used to enjoy a healthy relationship with girls.)



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    (p.s. - The max I have gone without masturbating in the last 11 years is 5 days. Maybe 6. On average, I give up in 2-3 days time.

    Except my willpower is stronger now.)

    I'll post again.
     
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  2. Nugget9

    Nugget9 Fapstronaut

    I wish you the best. It was easy for me because my SO said give it up or she's gone. Good luck on your journey.
     
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  3. WreckTangle

    WreckTangle Fapstronaut

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    Hi Flaming Hydra and welcome to NoFap! Good for you on making this change to your life.

    One thing that helped me when I first started my journey was to have a plan for what to do when urges would hit me and then to follow through with them. I went for a lot of walks which our dog really appreciated, hit the gym regularly and just tried to stay pretty busy. I changed and added to the plan as needed.

    Best of luck with it and don't hesitate to post here with whatever comes to mind any time you feel like it.
     
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  4. Flaming Hydra

    Flaming Hydra Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, I like that PMO tracker thing. It gets more exciting that way.

    I'm going full Spartan on this one. That means punishment if I cave in.
     
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  5. Rikardo

    Rikardo Fapstronaut

    All the best. Your history sounds a little like mine certainly with the 'later start'.

    Honestly, I think that makes it more difficult at times because I know once I discovered it then it was all I could concentrate on!
     
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  6. Flaming Hydra

    Flaming Hydra Fapstronaut

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    Thank you.

    Hear hear. I used to be that way during my pre-masturbation times. There used to be a radiance and glow on my face.

    It's really ending up like a FALLEN ANGEL once you cave in. I can pinpoint the precise moment my life started going downhill --- that fateful day when I first grabbed my junk. Damn!

    I'm going to prevail. I will win!
     
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  7. Flaming Hydra

    Flaming Hydra Fapstronaut

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    Given your PMO, it seems you have a day's headstart over me.

    I'm going to beat your score but only when we're both on the top of the scales. I need competition to feel motivated.

    Cheers.

    Thank you guys.
     
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  8. Rikardo

    Rikardo Fapstronaut

    Nice, game ON :D
    Nothing like a good bit of motivation:emoji_thumbsup:
     
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  9. Flaming Hydra

    Flaming Hydra Fapstronaut

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    Damn, it's not been even ONE day and I already feel miserable.

    I had better stay away from this forum for 2-3 days. Every time I read the words "masturbation", "sex" or "horny", it's game over.

    I'll post again when I have more self-control than I do now.
     
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  10. philippe moreau

    philippe moreau New Fapstronaut

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    Hello! I wish you a lot of success and fullfilment in this jouney! You can do it!
     
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  11. Flaming Hydra

    Flaming Hydra Fapstronaut

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    Sorry to break it to you guys, but I just relapsed. Damn, I'm hating myself.

    It was a next door neighbor. She's hot, often visits our house to hang out and borrow stuff. I was alone and she put her arms around my neck and started flirting with me. Normally one of my room-mates does it with her. She's nothing but a cocktease. Later I went into my bedroom and masturbated to her.

    I can't go 24 hours without getting into these situations. It's IMPOSSIBLE to avoid women.

    I don't want to reset my PMO counter until I have more discipline. Will be back another day.

    I'm unable to remove my PMO badge.
     
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  12. Rikardo

    Rikardo Fapstronaut

    Harsh luck man.

    Since you know this might happen in future, how about coming up with a strategy now? The simple things might be enough - go for a walk, cold shower etc. Just do *something* that gets between you and your urges.
     
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  13. WreckTangle

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    Hey, it happens. My advice; don't hate yourself, learn from what happened with that experience and move on with a modified plan for success. Hmm, you do have a plan to get you there, right? :D

    You're right, it's impossible to avoid women, but that's not needed. This is all about you and how you handle your life.

    Read @Rikardo's post above and then re-read my post #3 in this thread. I've found when I've had to beat an addiction working a plan that gets me past the urges is vital to success. If I had not done that when I was an alcoholic I would still be drinking (and would probably be dead by now). Same for when I decided to get serous about my PMO issue.

    You are I charge of your life my friend. You can do anything you want to if you want it badly enough. You don't have to let a woman put her arms around your neck when she wants to. You don't have to go to your room afterwards either, if that's not a good idea for you. It's all up to you.

    Changing ourselves, the way we think and react to situations, is hard but it can be done.

    You can do this :)
     

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