Hello I am 30 years old and I would like to know if my problem is solvable. I have been fapping for 17 years, most heavily the last 5 years. I was edging for 4 hours almost daily, delaying my orgasm. What scared me the most is: During the last few years, I was fapping almost everyday just to edge for hours. I had no particular interest in what I was watching, I wanted to feel ready to explode, pause, and go again for hours. Watching porn does not make me hard anymore, I needed to grab it and play with it to make me hard. If I make myself an erection, it will be 50%, horizontal, not going up. What I want: I want my erections to be restored from 50% horizontal position to 100% going up in the direction of the ceiling (if I am standing up). I want to get erections again just by being around girls I find hot, or by being close to them etc. If I stop PMO for around 6 months: Do you think that my 50% horizontal erections are due to edging and messing up my dopamine receptors ? Do you think it is curable and I can get my erections again to 100% vertically, parallel to my body ? Is it doable at my age ? Obviously after these are months, I want to have sex when the occasion presents itself, but I won't be using Porn and M. My wish is to get my erections very healthy and without my help, and maintain this 100% erections verical even after having sex with real girls. Thank you
Thank you for kindly answering. But I am looking for a specific answer about the angle of my erections. I am doing the reboot, I started 2 weeks ago, it is not difficult for me, as long as I am not alone in my apartment not doing anything for a few days. Though I only think about having a girl and my troubles.
I hope it works for you. It was getting like that for me at the end of using Porn. I would have a limp dick and cum. Now I am on a 7 day reboot with my gf, this is day 3. I wish you all the luck.
I don't remember when I had a vertical erection without touching myself, but solely from fantasizing / looking at a girl / etc with not physical help. My erections started to fade like 3 4 years ago. I still remember thinking about porn when in the car and having a real strong erections pushing my jeans up. I was already on a routine of fapping daily 1 time for 2-4h. But I stopped going to school at that time and stayed home everyday for years and my routine got worse. I kept doing this until now. I tried to do it less frequently, because I was aware of this, but I was still edging, searching for that perfect picture to finish myself after a tiring 2h+ fap. I do have firm strong erections at night though on regular basis. (if i put my hand on my thigh or close to my dick, my dick will even strenghten itself and get really hard). Especially if I don't masturbate and edge for a few days and if I eat red meat and all decently. I did a 1.5 month no PMO in January, but I heard a girl neighbor at night and I could not resist. At that time I was having throbbing, reddish, full blood erections after cat naps. I was trying meditation on my own. Once my mind slipped and I saw a girl in my mind doing yoga stuff, she was blurry in my imagination but it triggered a 20% erection in half a second before I even saw her in my mind. I was not having day erections yet. The night I masturbate though I was getting erect from softcore pictures while it was baby stuff for me when I was in my routine of PMO, it was not doing anything to me. In the middle if my fap I had a tremendous feeling like electrocution of good feeling from toes to brain, when I finished myself I really screamed. I had not felt that in... can't say. I was maybe up regulating my dopamine receptors, but it was not complete because after a few faps I was back at starting point. I want these night erections during the day though... I don't know what I am missing to have them during the day...
But can I get it back to vertical erections at my age..? I am not going to ask people in real life... I started the no PMO in monk mode as some say. I avoid staring at girls, i avoid tinder and applications like that, instagram etc... And I am willing to go for the long haul. In 15 days I will start my cross-fit + weight lifting sessions, to lose the belly fat I got on my abs, then to get some muscle mass once I am lean. I am skinny but just got some body fat in this area since I was just spending all my days on my computer playing video games hard-core, masturbating for whatever reason (boredom, angry, habit, sometimes when I actually felt the need to). I had 0 social life, my computer was my best friend and my left hand was my wife. I will also get back to meditation regularly. These last few days I moved to another country, got a job in a company, having social time with the employees. Also I am hanging out on my own just to see life outside on a regular basis. Cross-fit + weight lifting 6 days / week Meditation 7 days / week 20min bike 6 days / week I may add some biking or running. Healthy and very strict diet when I get started with my journey. For now I just stopped browsing escorts, touching myself etc.
My opinion it will come back. Your age is not a factor if you have only had this issue for 3-4 years. I know when I was 30 my erections were still as strong as when I was 18. I didn't get erect quite as easily, but there was really not much of a difference. I'm 60 now. My experience has been between 30-40 it took me slightly longer to get hard. 40-50 more of that change plus I was able to last longer. 50-60 there has been noticeable change and in the last few years ED started to show up. Now that I have not PMO'ed for 7 months I'm almost back to where I was in my mid fifties as far as getting an erection, but the added age means I can lose it faster than back then. Then again, that's just me. Some men start to have ED problems earlier but I don't think you are in that group since you were just fine a few years ago. IMO, if you avoid PMO long enough you will get right back to where you were. Best of luck with it!
Why you even posted this in the forums when it is a totally fap promoting content . I don't understand . Go find a good life man
I don't see it as FAP promoting. He is just asking questions and IMO they are legitimate questions. Hey, if we can't talk to each other here about this stuff, where can we