Quote from the book. Willpower Instinct

feo1966 · Nov 16, 2014

Here is a quote from the end of the book "Willpower Instinct"

I highly recommend the book if you want to understand how your brain works. There really is two of you in your brain. The part that is motivated by short term needs, and the part motivated by long-term goals.

Our human nature includes both the self that wants immediate gratification, and the self with a higher purpose. Self-control is a matter of understanding these different parts of ourselves, not fundamentally changing who we are. In the quest for self-control, the usual weapons we wield against ourselves— guilt, stress, and shame— don’t work . People who have the greatest self-control aren’t waging self-war. They have learned to accept and integrate these competing selves.

If there is a secret for greater self-control, the science points to one thing: the power of paying attention. It’s training the mind to recognize when you’re making a choice, rather than running on autopilot. It’s noticing how you give yourself permission to procrastinate, or how you use good behavior to justify self-indulgence. It’s realizing that the promise of reward doesn’t always deliver, and that your future self is not a superhero or a stranger. It’s seeing what in your world— from sales gimmicks to social proof— is shaping your behavior. It’s staying put and sensing a craving when you’d rather distract yourself or give in. It’s remembering what you really want, and knowing what really makes you feel better. Self-awareness is the one “self” you can always count on to help you do what is difficult, and what matters most. And that is the best definition of willpower I can think of.
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There are some good hints that explaining why meditation is needed and helpful. It increases your self-awareness, which you really need in order to keep an eye on your reward center.

Rewired · Nov 16, 2014

That's really good, thanks for sharing!

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Quote from the book. Willpower Instinct

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