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31 and starting my life again

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by kamado86, May 7, 2018.

  1. kamado86

    kamado86 Fapstronaut

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    So I'm a thirty one year old male. My twenties were mainly spent tapping (no porn) , gambling (which I've quit) and just basically finding out who I am. My father died when I was 22 and I didn't deal with it properly.

    I've been doing nofap for a few years but maximum streak was 23 days.

    I am determined this time to get to 100 days hardcore.

    Can I ask does anyone think making and building a new life at 31 is too old. I'm just finishing paying my debts off and I feel I'm in a good place but when I look around me all I see is people sorted with everything homes kids marriage etc. I have a full time job which I like but it isn't my passion. I just wonder if sometimes I'm too old. My twenties were a complete mess and I know that's the age you're meant to build .

    Thanks in.advance
     
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  2. RiseToGreatness

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    of course you aren´t too old :). lot´s of users here are on their 30´s (me too). we are never old to fight for what we deserve :)

    stay strong brother. you can do this!!!
     
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  3. outwithold

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    Sounds like your addict brain definitely thinks your too old! Watch out for that as the addict brain is very tricky indeed and very believable.
    What does your heart/soul tell you?
     
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  4. kamado86

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    That it's not too late and there's hope lol thanks man. I didn't think of it like that
     
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  5. Nugget9

    Nugget9 Fapstronaut

    Hey,

    You are never too old to help yourself. PMO is just bad.
     
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  6. freshstart111

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    I'm 36 and i see where you are coming from. All my friends are married/having kids while the longest relationship i have had was barely a year and a half (Outside of that your talking months or shorter) Porn always just seemed easier and nothing could ever live up to that fantasy world. I'd say the worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others, We are all individuals with our own stories after all.

    It really is never to late to better yourself and build towards your dreams (And trust me at 31 you have plenty of time) it sounds like you have made amazing strides already and you even said it yourself you feel like your in a good place, keep that positive mindset and there is no telling where it will take you
     
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  7. kamado86

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    Tha
    I really appreciate everyone's kind words . It's lovely to hear everyone's different thoughts and you're very supportive
     
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  8. outwithold

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    Were all in the same boat!
     
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  9. Covert

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    Me nearing to 31 and I still suck, it seems for me all things are coming to an end.
     
  10. Covert

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    Its good to see your positive mindset, hope that if I am have some of these. Really happy for you man.
     
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  11. kamado86

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    That's good to hear and not lol. Obviously I wouldn't want anyone else to struggle but it's nice to know there are people going through similar. :)
     
  12. kamado86

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    Sorry to hear this. Is there a way it can get better??
     
  13. diromedes

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    I am 31, unmarried, no kids. And I am happy with this setup.

    There is no person alive who can not make a new beginning.
     
  14. Covert

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    Don't ask about my ways because I can't find any way out. Apr form PMO I have indulge myself into a buffet of other serious problems like anxiety, depression, mind fickleness, fear of trying something new, etc. Hope you understand my position.

    Note: This post is not to discourage you my friend. You asked I just told that's all.
     

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