To all who sets a start date

Mato this is a good advice.

Thanks

 

yeah..totally agree

 

This is how I think of it: there are no days. Only today. The only goal one needs is to make it to the end of the day not having relapsed.

 

I have to disagree. Counting turns it into a kind of game or challenge, which makes it more engaging; almost fun. I look forward to passing each milestone and I get a huge sense of satisfaction when I do. Counting the days allows me to measure myself and my level of improvement, and having goals keeps me focused and motivated to keep going.

Each to their own I suppose.

 

I guess it all depends on how you are as a person. I think I'm a naturally competitive person so it inspires me every time that counter goes up.

 

Yep, that's cool, too.

 

i think it is good to count days in the beginning. but once you're used to it you it's not necessary anymore.

 

Is a good point and if it works for some then cool. I've considering getting rid of my tracker but it works for me and the process of change as I understand it. But I'm always up for changing my view if I think it can be improved so thanks for the suggestion

 

i agree completely. it is all about adopting the lifestyle and not thinking about it anymore, just see it as something normal.

 

Just a word of caution. When quitting any kind of addiction just be sure you have stayed stopped long enough to be absolutely certain this is something you will never do aagain. Otherwise its too easy to rationalize and slip back into your old ways. So please stay vigilant and don't rush the process because there is no rush, not if this REALLY is forever?

 

thanks for the advice

 

I will try it Thanks

 

It's a good idea, I'm actually gonna try it now by removing my tracker to see how it goes .

 

To the person above: this why I dress modestly, for all the guys who are trying not to lust.

For MO, I personally feel like I do better with a counter. It makes a reset feel like more of a big deal, and I'm less likely to cut myself a break "just this once". But I might try with no counter, just for kicks.

For P I'm not using a counter. I looked at some soft core P last summer, but I'm done with that now. I've had no urges or any real desire to go back to it since. I guess I'm lucky and didn't get addicted. I feel like using a counter for P would just make it a viable choice again, which I don't want.

 

Whatever works for you mate. All the best with it

 

I agree we shouldn't always be looking at our dark past but rather where we want to go... that being said, I quit on 11/12/13 (dd/mm/yy), so I'll never forget the date lol.