GUYS NEED HELP....I FAILED OVER 50-60 TIMES within a year!!!!!!!!!!!

Read this:
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0

I have been in your situation. I could tell you a lot, but it's all in the link.

 

in my opinion it is better to start with small goals. start with 14 days. every time you reach a goal you can extend it.

this is a very hard fight - learn to meditate.

find a substitute for porn. no matter what! there are so many things you can do (for example learning a language, painting, an instrument, sports, crochet, pottery etc).

good luck!

 

I would agree with the previous post. Start with small achievable goals even if it's just seven days.
I would also recommend tracking your progress on paper or on a spreadsheet.
It's important to keep the goal in front of yourself everyday especially at the beginning. Come to NoFap and post every day.
Definitely find something anything else to do that you enjoy especially if it is something that will get you out and interacting with other people.
I would also agree with the other person learn to breath and meditate in the morning even if it's only 5-10 minutes.
Exercise regularly even if it's only walking for 20-30 minutes a day.
Put some kind of porn blocker on your computer.
Find an accountability partner who can help you sharing with someone else will help get over the shame.
Do not beat yourself up if you PMO just start over. If you track your progress so you can see improvement even if it's small that will help your motivation.
Finally it's normal for most people to fail multiple times before succeeding so keep trying over and over and eventually you will succeed

 

Stay strong Aryan! If someone like me can reach 33 days, you can do a whole lot more.

If you can join a meditation group, or start a regular meditation practice, it will be invaluable. Even if all you're doing is sitting for five minutes in the morning and five minutes in the evening, simply observing your breath - that will start to make you a lot more aware and alert. Give it a whirl.

I'm also a fan, like Monkotto and Poblano, of short goals. If making a 7 day commitment is intimidating, then simply commit to getting through the next 24 hours PMO free, and share what you learn.

Also, these will help:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU

Cheers!

 

You need to read the literature on sex addiction.

There are drivers of your addiction here that many dont notice unfortunately unless they are told.

My recommended book would be "Facing the Shadow - Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery" by Patrick Cairnes.

Theres a lot to say but most of it is in the literature and you must spend time to read it.

A couple of things:

- one big driver is the shame. Religiosity and spirituality are critical in recovery from addiction, but shaming yourself and telling yourself that you are an inferior person and a failed person because of your past will continue the addiction cycle as it will make you even more hopeless, and addiction is a symptom of hopelessness and a feeling of inferiority in life. Sometimes shame is accelerated by telling yourself you are going to hell and that you are a bad person, isntead of a wounded person. You are wounded. Inside you are a good person, however. You have it in you to recover.

- The second big driver in your case is stress and a binge-purge lifestyle. I also have a full scholarship to medicine. Trust me, you are insanely smart but insanely over-worked. I know and fully identify with the level of stress in your life. Addiction sets up a cycle where you go really hard obsessively at something, like medicine, but then relax and relapse by living in the other extreme of total acting out addictively. You need a balance. You likely have very little balance in your life, and living for years as you have with a shame and binge-purge cycle is going to take a long time to work out of. Identifying it is the first thing. Rebalancing your life by giving yourself reasonable goals and plenty of relaxation time to broaden your life experiences is critical.

These are just starting points that I can glean from the minimal information you have given in this thread. THere is a lot more to it but all the best brother. You have made the first and most important step, but theres no point in continuing to try the same thing. To actually gain power over the addiction you will have to accept that with your current self and techniques you are powerless, and will need to put faith and rely in a new system that gives you the power. That new system can only be learnt and gained from support from literature and other people.

 

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In addition to the tips everyone else gave you I would say one of the best things to do is watch videos about the science of a porn addiction and how to quit. I'll give you links to some good videos to watch.

Gary Wilson Ted Talks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

The Reboot Nation: In these videos a man named Gabe tells his story and how he quit porn. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaEqbNJURD6ChROqueUdNuA

Ted Talks Ran Gavrieli: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU

Hopefully these videos will motivate you to quit. Good luck!

 

Sweet, dude! Congrats on the scholarship! Yep, stay busy focusing on your school, but also find some other new fun things to do as well. Never give up!

 

Never give up! Succes is the outcome of many failures. Giving up is the attitude of one that is not succesful, and you sir have the potentional to be succesful so keep going! You keep trying and you want to change it and I know for sure you will!