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Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by myspirithurt, May 14, 2018.

  1. myspirithurt

    myspirithurt Fapstronaut

    I don’t think of this as a “success” story at all.

    I’m 40. I have a teenaged daughter who just got a drivers license and a 9 year old son who is discovering a love for art and roller blading (in addition to his love of gaming discovered long ago).

    “Success” would have meant being clean before they were born, which would have allowed me to be a better dad. “Success” would have been setting an example for them and others on what it means to be a loving and caring husband. The truth is they probably think I’m a pretty decent dad, but they don’t know what they missed out on. I know I could have provided numerous teaching moments for them and helped prepare them better for the challenges they now face and will continue to face.

    But I can’t change the past. I have to move forward as best I can and be the person they deserved all along.

    My heart goes out to the younger guys who are in this forum. The sooner you nail this thing, the better.

    I never want to come to a point in which I think I have things figured out, as that will likely lead to complacency, which inevitably leads to small justifications and eventually relapsing.

    For now, I am just thankful for this community of fellow humans trying to improve their lives by being morally clean. I hope that I continue to learn from your experiences. I have been brought to tears by your failures (as I know how it feels) and I have also been filled with hope by your triumphs.
     
  2. All_384

    All_384 Fapstronaut

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    We all learn from our mistakes & can only better ourselfs mate..

    It sounds like you have recognized it & bettering yourself, very well done to you mate :)

    Keep it up :)
     
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  3. Thanks for your beautiful words. I am 24 and when I read words from people like you, I become so sure that I am doing justice to my life and slaying that demon that ended up ruining a lot of us.

    It's never too late sir to walk onto this beautiful life and start experiencing real liberty. I hope you slay that demon and become an amazing dad and provide real values to your young ones, something that our generation and newer generations lay a little emphasis on. All the best. Hope you get all you aspire for. We would be glad to help you in any ways possible :)
     
  4. Day walker

    Day walker Fapstronaut

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    I feel the same - I’m 40 as well - I have kids too - although my wife would say I’m a great dad and husband I also would have liked to destroy this in me b4 kids BUT now is the time ! I will break this cycle so I can rest assured that I’m not living in regret when I’m really old and on my death bed - also, the silver lining is that I’m much more aware of this sin, and I teach and protect my kids from it since I know the damage it causes -
     
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    You are a great example and role model for everyone here. You are prove that it is never too late to change. Change is inevitable and feels so good. All the best!
     
  6. Atrium_Guy

    Atrium_Guy Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the beautiful and vulnerable share. I'm married with kids and I KNOW that feeling. There are times when I think 'shit I wish I woulda NAILED this when I was 25'....but thats just the thing. We are here now, and the only thing we can control is our present moment.

    I rejoice you friend. You are taking a stand for yourself, for your wife, for your kids - and doing this NOW shows a type of strength and fortitude that wasn't possible in the past. Realize that! The effect you are having in your family right in this moment is extraordinary...and the world is an open door for you! Keep going......
     

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