No longer human

Normally nofap gives feelings back, but if you started PMO because you felt loneliness, that feeling will come back too. Once you feel loneliness again, you can take action. If it becomes too difficult or something, there is always professional help. It's proven that being busy helps a lot, working out, sport or something else that keeps your mind from thinking about loneliness. That is not a long term solution though, for that you have to do some real selfwork, why do you feel loneliness, what beliefs about yourself trigger it, stuff like that, most of the time it's acceptance of yourself and starting to love yourself.

 

Hey good to see you here.
I don't know how old you are
If you read the +40 section you will see that having this réalisation much later is even more difficult. So +1 for realising this today.

This is a community of sharing maybe make a journal write your thoughts your despair your dreams n you LL get some feedback it will help
You can also read the journals of others give feedback this also help to understand different viewpoints.
Whatever happens please remember that those thoughts are just thoughts they are not reality' nobody should dye because of an emotion. They always pass.

Stay strong buddy we do this together

 

Hello @Sam1996,

My advice is simple: talk to people as much as you can, in person. Make a list of things you can do which involve talking to people, no matter how small that talking is.

I set a daily goal for myself which I call "socialization", which is basically talking to people (not my family members) outside of my home. I go out almost every day: to Narcotics Anonymous meetings, to a gym, shops, banks, etc. Sometimes I even meet my old friends or colleagues.

 

I am so sorry to know that you feel the way you feel. Loneliness can be very painful, but you should know you are not alone.
Finding ways to reach out to others ... like you’ve done here (!) ... is a great step. It takes effort, but it helps provide that connection to real human beings that is so essential if we are to shift from the fantasy of P to the reality of life.
One thing you might consider is a physical checkup. You sound depressed, and getting a full physical could rule out other causes.
If in overall good health, then start to make changes with the basics — diet, rest, exercise. Get healthy amounts of these as the foundation for overall physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual well-being.
By posting here, you’ve taken a step. Congratulations! That’s proof you can take another ... and another ... and another...!
Peace!!!

 

Yeah I also have no friends, but im kinda happier now. I so hated myself at high school when I was socializing just for the social status. No friendship or real friendship imo. But its pretty hard to find the real after being dirty.

 

P turns us into wraiths. At least it is reversible.

 

It took me awhile to work up the courage to speak to a doctor about how I was feeling and it was diagnosed as major depression. Honestly the antidepressants worked well for me. Depression is a horrible beast and it makes you not want to do the very things that make you feel better like exercise, socialize, eat well, etc. When you are in a deep hole, sometimes therapy or antidepressants help push you up high enough that you can once again engage in the self-care that will pull yourself the rest of the way up.

 

It sounds like there something messing things up, and your natural happiness and ability for friends and success is stuck under a pile of crap.

You know you don't want to be lonely, and that this current state is not acceptable to you. I would start gaining an understanding of yourself, your feelings, and your past.

Are you doing therapy?

I too have been alone for a long time. There were people around me, but I couldn't connect to them. I now understand why, and it's changing slowly.

It sounds like you have a clear understanding of the symptoms. Now you have to get an understanding of the cause.

 

Hey dude,
since i read that you have problems with your feelings and that already alone. I think you have maybe a hard depression and i won't search the problem only here. Only the fap.
I would advise you to go to a doctor or thinking to search therapy. I mean it seriously because it can get even worse as it is already!

good luck and i wish you much strenght!

 

with your feelings and that already for long*