My Story, 23 y/o male.

Hi @Rogeron and welcome to nofap. We're glad you're here. Yeah, I had many a "jackathon"! haha, good name for it. I haven't have any jackathons in over a month.

I think that nofap will help you start being able to have sex with women instead. Part of it might just be getting used to being with an actual person, all the pressure, all the intimacy, the feelings, the actual relationship. When I was in college and met my first GF, I never quit PMO. At first I had trouble with EQ but eventually had no problems being with her even though I continued a PMO habit. So part of it is the acclimation to all the added complexities of being with a physical, actual person.

At the same time it might be helpful to try a reboot and see if it helps even more. Also did she know it was your first time? I hid the fact that it was my first time from my first GF. She was patient with me anyway as I learned to be with her and we ended up having some really excellent times together. I really loved her and kinda wish I hadn't broken up with her but thats another story!

I hope this helped. If staying clean is what you decide you want to do, nofap can help you with that. And if you are not sure yet, nofap can help you decide!

 

Ah. that makes sense. Well it is like what I did with my first GF back in 2009. I tried to act like I was with alot of females before her. Once I lied, and said 14! When she asked. I did that to play a mind game and make her think I was in high demand. And to make her more attached to me. She told me she actually was with quite a few guys before me. And I knew at least 3 of them. I guess I didn't have much self-worth.

Now if I was with someone I would definitely be honest with her. I would say that I have not been with a woman since 2011 and I'm going to need time to adjust to being with her physically. I would try to make sure that she and I had a good connection, and even loved each other. I ended up being in love with that first GF but it really started as more of a physical encounter that became a long term relationship down the line. Well I guess I want another relationship now. I have some things blocking me from it.

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!