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That could be true, but it is very difficult to figure out what those roots are when my fetish first showed its face when I was around four years old.

 

Just downgrade your internet plan. This way you will have internet just enough to fulfill your needs and not your wants.

The best suggestion would be to disable internet completely and use internet only in public libraries/ public places. Accessing internet only in public will make sure that you dont have the privacy to watch fetish videos.

Delete all the fetish videos from your harddrive. This goes without saying.

 

This sums up something I think strongly about fetishes, and have tried to say in a few threads here and there.

If you want to eliminate all your fetishes because you think you'll only rebalance yourself by having 100% vanilla sex life, then I support you. Go for it! I have no problem with that. Maybe all your fetishes are porn induce, so will probably go away if you give up PMO, or maybe some of them are deeper-wired than that but you can still overcome them. Great.

But I don't think that's the only way of doing NoFap or giving up porn or rebalancing.

For a start, we have different ideas of what a "fetish" is. it's not possible to draw a hard line between a fetish and what some people would think is a 100% vanilla "preference". I think it's okay to have a sexuality that includes e.g. preferring men in suits, or women in jeans, or tall guys or big boobs or tantric stuff ... you get the idea.

Also, we may have fetishes that are deeper wired than by porn. For me, I know the right thing to do is accept them, feel okay about them and find suitable partners to do them in real life, and stay away from porn. I think this is much better than feeling bad, which is exactly what can lead to porn use. I also think you can have a happy, loving fetishy sex life without fetishy porn just as you can have a happy loving vanilla sex life without vanilla porn.

I think it's okay to choose to keep a fetish, if it harms nobody.

Some fetishes are likely to be harmful to yourself, and I agree it's best to try and conquer them. Others can be harmful to others and of course you need to conquer that. I'm not arguing in favour of dangerous and destructive fetishes.

But if a fetish isn't like that (and I don't think they all are) then accepting it is fine. The key is to stay away from porn so it doesn't get distorted.

 

hmm.. nope my fetish ( if you can call it a fetish ) has nothing to do with it.
I have a tits obsession, even looking at porn I can control myself until the woman does something naughty with her boobs and off I go.. so I decided not to look at all anymore is the best way not to fall into it.

No past things have anything to do with this fetish.. no.

 

A "tits obsession" is not a fetish. Fetishes are non-sexual objects that we find sexually stimulating.

 

That's exactly the sort of thing I meant when I said:

It's no good telling him his tits obsession isn't a fetish. It seems to him it's on a borderline, and we don't know what it's like to be him.

 

Yeah, OK. I see what you mean.

 

well ok, I kinda thought you meant being obsessed by it.. but fetish has a different ring to it.. so you are right...

 

I don't think my fetish was porn induced

 

You may well be right. They're not all porn induced.

The practical question is if you want to be completely rid of it *whether it's porn induced or not*, or if on the other hand you're okay with it *if you can get it back to a (for you) "normal" state not distorted by porn*.

If you want the second, then I think giving up PMO will almost certainly work for you. If you want the first, then I'm sure it's possible and giving up PMO will get you at least some of the way, but may not be enough on it's own.

 

My main goal is to get rid of the porn addiction and reliance on masturbation.

 

Good.
Work hard on this issue in your life, otherwise it won’t leave you.
Hard work

 

I read a book by a Robert Stoller called Perversion, the erotic form of hatred.

He claims that for many people who develop fetishes there was very likely a triggering event when the person was very young that was humiliating. It may have felt like a threat to ones gender identity. The fetish formed as a way to experience anger at the humiliation.

He said this is what he learned from studying people (males) specifically with fetishes. That was his opinion.

 

Yes it is.

 

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