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Does having threesome during reboot worsen your PIED and brain rewiring?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by nevergiveup93, May 24, 2018.

  1. nevergiveup93

    nevergiveup93 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys!
    First time posting in forum!
    Am 25 years old. Fapping since my teens and though I suffered from PIED, I had a pretty good exposure to sexual encounters. I started NoFap to overcome my PIED.

    Status:
    Am currently 39 days in (first attempt and longest streak) and I got some inconsistent flatlines in between. Recently I have been getting mild boners for the last 1 week (mild enough but can hold for at least 7 -10 minutes, 3-4 times a day!).

    Problem:
    I am getting consistent thoughts about my past sex life that increases my libido and boner. I had a threesome with a couple few months ago and they became good friends of mine and want to continue the relationship. They do know about my erectile dysfunction problem and they are supportive of it. Since I am rebooting right now, is it fine to have another threesome encounter with them anytime sooner? Or will it rewire my brain back to porn and worsen my ED?

    In short do engaging in wild sexual fantasies worsen your reboot process?

    Looking forward for the responses!
    P.S: Thanks to this community for giving me motivation throughout the process. It really helps me a lot!! :)
     
  2. outwithold

    outwithold Fapstronaut

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    What does your heart tell you?

    In nofap the general idea seems to be that if you no longer PMO you will get relief from a lot of negative symptoms because the brain will begin to rewire, sexually.
    I believe a lot more needs to be looked at than just stopping porn masturbation, but thats getting away from your question.

    Personally I would suggest that if your sexual behaviour has been a result of porn imagery and fantasy, then your most probably continuing to strengthen those brain pathways that your trying to 'disconnect from', which points in the direction of yes your activity has impacted your symptoms and your nofap journey.
     
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  3. nevergiveup93

    nevergiveup93 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you for your response outwithhold!! :)
    1. Though I am getting a lot of urges and fetish for threesome, I am controlling myself not to PMO for this. In general any thinking of any previous sexual encounter (normal sex) gives me a boner.
    2. To be very honest, I tried to experiment threesome after porn fantasies. My relationship with the couple is sexually wild (i do get bisexual thoughts) but they are very friendly and supportive to understand my problems.
    This is where I get confused whether or not to proceed with this relationship and would it destroy my normal sexual behavior.
     
  4. nevergiveup93

    nevergiveup93 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks again outwithhold for your support!!

    Long post but worth reading in case if anyone is trying to overcome a fetish like me, go to YBOP (Your brain on porn) and search for rebooting with a partner.

    KEY POINT: Having orgasms or trying to force erections may be counterproductive, but kissing, touching, and fooling around, can help rewire your brain to the real thing.

    I feel that my threesome fetish is mostly to reach orgasm which might be counter productive. I also wanted to make sure I enjoy the intimacy in a normal sex. I felt it's best to stay away from sexual activities for a while and let it come naturally.
     
  5. outwithold

    outwithold Fapstronaut

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    if anything my personal thoughts from my own experience is that porn fuelled my desire to carryout certain sexual behaviours, and some very similar to yours.
    I feel that me actually bringing the 'porn fantasy' behaviours into my reality was actually very troublesome indeed and when I look back it is a great example of the progression in my sex addictions.
     
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  6. nevergiveup93

    nevergiveup93 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your tip outwithhold! Always better to get advice from ppl experienced similar situation before. Best is to tone my body and mind to accept sex naturally and not look for artificial stimulation.
     

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