Hello and thanks.

Hi ler41! Welcome to nofap. That's great to make it 19 days so far. I hope the forums continue to help you. I think they made a huge difference in me staying clean so far. I've been on them since day 3, every day.

 

Wow 20 days is no joke ler41. If you have gone this far, you can do even more. Good luck on this wierd, but epic journey !

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

 

Hey @ler41

I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship..

@Brahmacharin
@tet2vd
@Satchi
@JackMcWaffles
@BigDawg913
@zakes
@LilD
@kropo82
@TheGoldenEra

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

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I know what you mean. It's like a maze of evil. It convinces me with lies that around every corner is a newer, better vid or image, that the one I'm seeing at that moment isn't as good as the next one or the one I saw before that I can't remember.

But the maze isn't real. The problem is my brain thinks it's real. Then it demands that kind of perfection - perfect people doing perfect things. But, it's a lie. Nobody is that perfect - it's edited, changed and scripted.

When I get in real life my brain then demands the same perfection and the result is PIED and DE for me.

It's gotten better now after a few 24 hours without pmo.

L