I've hit rock bottom

Sorry to hear all that!

I know a little how you feel. I’ve been very disappointed with myself for a long time too. Ive been addicted for a long time and keep relapsing and just feel terrible about myself. But I haven’t given up, and I will not give up.

Don’t give up! Despite relapses and guilt and feeling bad about yourself, don’t give up and keep trying!

 

sorry to hear about this, dude. But you made a great step to coming to this site, everybody is struggling. I can't feel what you feel, and to be honest, your situation sounds not the most fun one to be in right now, but... first step to fixing problems is diagnosing what the problem actually is, so you made one step closer. Take small steps, write things down for your self, analyse which things need to improve, see what kind of agreements you can make with yourself, which you can accomplish. But it aint no easy ride, or a straight line up.. i was also totally messed up in life, things are not sudden all golden for me, but compared to a few months back, im doing better now.. i want to keep the line going upwards. Today had a really struggling day with urges, many doubts in my mind to pmo again.. gotta say this site is really helpful for me. All the best bro

 

I would apologies, but I notice despite you being hit down n heavy hasnt broken your spirit...
Change often doesnt come till we believe we are at the lowest and hit rock bottom. Then by the ichar only God's possess, we fight to rise with a focus and drive we never knew was in us.

Do the history of those who rose to sucess only after hitting rock bottom. People on this site are living testaments, they know where their Rockbottom is, and no not to ever go back.

Its like burning your self in a fire, and feeling the pain deep in your sinews, before you walk out again. No one knows your pain, only you, and when you walk out, you know you ain't ever going to let it burn again.

Now, walk forward and feel that fire inside you. Time to fight. Don't give up

 

Don't Give Up friend !!

 

Sending support my friend. Rock bottom is both the worst place AND the best place to be. Worst because it sucks. Best because the only way to go is UP.

Things will change. Take this site seriously and do a reboot with the mentality that there’s no choice but success. Take the Academy course. Get APs.

Man, I feel you. You are so supported and loved you have no idea. You got this, you have nothing to lost except a pointless addiction. So many are succeeding. You can too. Let’s do it!!

 

Hey @erebus, you said it feels like you have no hope left, but the fact that you've joined this site and are posting here says to me that you still have some hope and are still fighting! So first of all I want to commend you for your efforts in getting help.

I definitely understand that feeling of no hope.. it's not an easy burden to bear. I do believe, however, that you will get through this and that you can overcome this addiction.

You said that you've been able to quit for weeks and sometimes months at a time but end up coming back. You're trying to stop doing certain things and end some bad habits, but what are you replacing them with? Our sexuality is powerful and simply endeavoring to starve it (or certain aspects of it) is extremely challenging.

If you haven't already, I'd strongly encourage you to find some good habits to replace the bad ones you want to eliminate. Perhaps it's exercising every day at the time when you're most tempted or you could volunteer somewhere. I'm considering trying something like tutoring because I like explaining things and it would have a positive impact on others. You know yourself best, find good habits that work for you and use them to replace the bad ones. Keep fighting!

 

Due to us living in the new age, you may be wondering why I am going to quote verses from the Quran. Because you said please help, you're in a horror of a place anyway and it would not hurt. If this upsets you then I apologize, but I shall try to help the only way I know how.

Allah wants to lighten for you [your difficulties]; for mankind was created weak. (4:28)

Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear. (2:286)

Truth has come and falsehood has vanished. Indeed! Falsehood is ever bound to vanish. (17:81)

Know that Allah intervenes between man and his heart, and that to Him you shall be gathered. (8:24)

O mankind, your injustice is only against yourselves, (being merely) the enjoyment of worldly life. Then to Us is your return, and We will inform you of what you used to do. (10:23)

Surely Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves. (2:8)

And your Lord says, “Call upon Me; I will respond to you.” (40:7)

Indeed, Prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing. (29:45)

Remember me, and I will remember you. (2:152)

And when i am ill, it is he who cures me. (26:80)

We Will Test You In Fear, Hunger Loss of Wealth Life & Fruit But Give Glad Tiding to Patient. (2:155)

The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception. (3:185)

If Allah helps you, none can over come you, and if he forsakes you, then who is there that can help you? (3:160)

Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to him we will return. (2:156)

Say: "I seek refuge in the Lord of mankind.
The King of mankind.
The God of mankind.
From the evil of the retreating whisperer.
Who whispers [evil] into the breasts of mankind.
From among Jinn, and among Mankind.
(114)

Blessings be upon you friend.

 

I feel with you man. I cant say anything except that we all in here have something we wanna deal with. I feel your pain right now writing this. Know that. Reading about you and the others in here gives me at least strength to go on. I hope you feel that you are not alone too.

My situation now: Visiting Prague. Drinking beer at the balcony. My buddies are going to strip clubs, erotic massages, thai massages etc etc twice a day.

I'm not. I dont feel any cravings for it at all. That is what pains me the most. I'm lost in the animated digital world where no human can live. Only animated characters and me watching. How fucked up is that? Im not depressed because I dont have sex, but because I dont want to have sex.

Im on day 20 or 30 or something free of PMO. Dunno when I started.

I wish you best of luck . If a lost guy like me can motivate himself to try to achieve this, so can you .