Foot Fetish: What do you guys think of this?

I have a foot fetish too. I noticed when i don´t fap for a longer time, for example 2 or 3 weeks, i get aroused by other bodyparts (boobs). But womens feet are my primary source of sexual arousal.Once i road that fetishes can change,that happened to me too.
I don´t know if you can get a hard erection like you get by feet. You would have to stop to look or think about feet as much as possible and see what happens. But that is realy very hard for a foot fetishist.

 

I have been going to premarital counceling and a part of that has become NoFap and abstinence until the honeymoon. My therapist has said after the 40 day mark our brain begins to rewire it's self and starts to reset our fetishes or likes and fantasies.

 

Depending how how long you have been fapping to foot fetish porn this can be a long process. There is sensitization and desensitization of the brain. It takes far longer for your brain to desensitize certain pathways than it takes to resensitize others. Basically what this means is based on your neuro pathways your gonna rewire and start to get hard to other things ie: tits, ass, before you start to lose your affection to feet. In my opinion as long as you can still get hard and appreciate all of a women's body who cares if you also like her feet. It's just a double bonus! If it is something that you've been into since you were young it's likely embedded quite deeply, and therefore is gonna take a long time to change. Just focus on one thing at a time. Reboot, and don't look at any porn. Without feet eventually your brain is gonna be attracted to the "vanilla flavour" of regular sex because you've taken away that reward circuit in your brain.

Good luck, and safe travels.

 

I've got to admit I've got the same fetish. A girl with small feet and open toed sandals with her toenails painted sends me to cloud-cuckoo.I always catch myself looking down and admiring her feet.

Is it normal? Who knows, everyone has some fetish, most guys go crazy over breasts but it does nothing for me. When someone says wow look at her huge breasts, I'll be like, nah I prefer pert small rounded breasts. I could get off to a girl without her even having to take of her bra if she had a pretty face and nice feet. Everyone is different. To objectify a body part is somewhat unusual, and I've no doubt that a good reboot will do wonders to helping you address these issues.

Good luck man

 

Hey gainsrs - i'm in the same boat with the same fetish also. It definitely pre-dates the porn for me, but currently having gone 40 days i am feeling the foot fetish creeping back into my mind. As other say above, i think the best thing we can do is consciously avoid looking/thinking at/about feet. Difficult as they are on show constantly and used in advertising and all sorts, but I think we need to force ourselves to try and ignore as much as possible, and just to do this for some time. Fingers crossed and good luck with it! (and if you wanna have a chat feel free to pm)

 

It doesn't sound like a serious fetish. Did you get it from porn?

 

I have a nylon fetish. I grew up in a very conservative home and church where it was very common place to see...which did nooooot help! My problem is certain times of the year are worse than others so even a trip to the store can set it off.

 

I also have a foot fetish but am also aroused by other body parts. I dont need feet to be aroused either.

I bought it up with my therapist and he talked about how fetishes often form due to this process known as "reaction formation" in psychodynamic theory - when a certain childhood need is formed but not responded to. Almost all men will have noticed some sort of attraction or sexual nature or beauty associated with female feet at some stage. With a fetish often a genetic predisposition combined with some other childhood associations (non-sexual) with feet, causes the brain to halt at the sexual "noticing" of feet and increase the focus on that beyond average levels so that it becomes a major feature of sexuality. Its often to do with restrictions on other areas of the body or childhood associations with feet and touch, feet and joy etc that then become sexual once the feet are sexually noticed as part of the overall female body, in the context of the person subconsciously believing the fetish will satisfy some underlying need.

Porn probably isnt the cause, but it can definitely accelerate it. The fact that you arent aroused by other body parts may be due to porn in that you have been desensitised to these and your sexuality wasnt given the chance to also discover these sequentially. Sometimes childhood restrictions on "normal" body parts can increase the likelihood of fetish formation and decrease their significance in the arousal template. E.g. if your mother was very conscious of you or even prevented you from coming close to her breasts even as a child when you hugged her and you never associated the feeling of joy and care with the feeling of your mothers breasts on your chest or face (before puberty or sexcual desire of course), later on you wouldnt allow your sexual noticing of breasts to develop into the arousal template.

This may even be part of intergenerational trauma where your mother has beliefs about children coming close to her breasts or is hyper-reactive in that if her breasts are touched even accidentally by you or when you hug her she interprets it sexually or as harrassment. This could be in the context of your mother being sexually harrassed/abused during her childhood or being taught by her parents rules or boundaries associated with touch that were unreasonable which she is now passing on to you.

A complex area. If you really want to get rid of it or help your sexuality develop better psychotherapy might help. A reboot will definetely help as well but with fetishes that arise before porn there are other deeper factors. It is usually not an issue as long as you are aroused by other parts of the body as well and have a partner who is willing to co-operate and also enjoys the experience.

 

I need much more time to get even an erection, when i don´t fantasice about feet and i´m much more aroused with female feet.I also have masochistic fantasies. Sorry for answering so late,i´m not every day on this forum.