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90 days!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Will27272, Jun 1, 2018.

  1. Will27272

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    Thought I'd give you all a summary of what's happened over the last 90 days.. The highs, the lows and most importantly, what I have learned..

    I won't write too much about my back story, If you're interested you can check some of my past updates!

    So at 90 days, here are a list of some of the changes I've noticed in myself:

    * Morning wood has come back
    * Random boners (these two have only been in the last week or so)
    * Heavily reduced social anxiety
    * Easier to stick to routines
    * More alert, awake, aware, focused
    * Reduced outbursts of anger
    * Less rumination
    * More control over my attention/ impulses
    * Less reactive, more able to endure discomfort
    * Sleeping better
    * Longer lasting erections with partner/ no pushing rope



    I don't necessarily think that NoFap is the sole cause of all these things, I've also done a lot of other things to get to where I am now, but I do believe I couldn't have done all of these things while fapping.. I think a lot of people (myself included when I first started 90 days ago) see nofap as a cure.. It's not, its a catalyst for change..

    Here are the other things I've done that I think have been extremely helpful:

    * My morning routine cold shower > Meditation > Exercise (situps, calisthenics)
    * Journalling (planning my days the night before, and writing a paragraph about the day I've had
    * Running 3x a week
    * Sensory deprivation before I go to sleep

    The cold showers are a little victory first thing every morning.. Its winter here in Australia at the moment, and it is not easy getting into a freezing cold shower, but its a great way to wake myself up first thing in the morning!

    The journalling is an excellent way to plan my days so I don't find myself wasting time..
    Also, I can get my thoughts and feelings about the day on paper which really helps!

    Running has been an absolute game changer, I am hooked!

    The sensory deprivation is something I haven't heard anyone on here talk about, but I find it very helpful.. I listen to filtered white noise on my headphones and lay in bed with a face mask on.. Here, I can destimulate from the day before sleeping, and I often spend time thinking about my studies and trying to grasp concepts I'm struggling with.

    It hasn't all been fun and games though, here are a list of the struggles I've gone through over the last 90 days

    * Overstimulation, shakes, sweats
    * Outbursts of anger
    * Suicidal thoughts
    * No motivation, struggling to even get out of bed
    * Frequent, pervasive sexual impulses
    * Pains and tension in my crotch

    These pass though, these are not anything you have to respond to, its just noise as your brain rewires.

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    I think its important that I don't view 90 days as a 'case closed', there are still a lot of things I'm not happy with and want to improve upon:

    * Spending less time on my phone, incessant checking of Email/ facebook
    * Get out of bed at the same time consistently
    * Use my spare time more productively
    * More disciplined with my work, and more able to push through distractions and impulses


    Thanks for reading, I tried to keep it as concise as possible, but I sincerely hope that whoever reads this knows that there's a light at the end of the tunnel, and to just keep chugging along!
     
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  2. Gideonite

    Gideonite Fapstronaut

    Thanks for the inspiration brother, bless you.
     
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  3. RingoRules

    RingoRules Fapstronaut

    Congrats! Your journey is inspiring.
     
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  4. Don Gately

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    Sensory deprivation sounds like a great way to wind down. I'll have to see if I can put together something similar.
     
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  5. sol245

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    Thanks for sharing and congrats on hitting 90 days. Quick question, please. During your first 10 to 50 days did you get urges to watch/see P on your phone? How do you deal with urges to look at P on your phone?
     
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  6. Don Gately

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    You didn't ask me, but my answer is:
    1) avoid using it when no one is around
    2) don't use it in the bathroom
    3) don't use it in bed

    I'm not perfect at keeping these rules; They're more like goals, but (especially early on) I find that they're really good guidelines.
     
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  7. sol245

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    Great ideas! In other words, minimize using the phone while alone. I'll keep that in mind.
    Thanks!
     
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    Wow great job!

    I’m doing many of the same things as you, and I have 69 days sober from PMO for the first time in 22 years! Coincidence??? :) (It makes me tear up just thinking about how grateful I am to have this time sober).

    I completely agree that nofap is why we’re all here, but it takes more that just not doing it for me to stay sober.

    Thank you for your success story and for motivating me to continue on this path of recovery. If all goes well I will soon experience 90 days sober.
     
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  10. Will27272

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    The urges will always be there, but urges are just urges bro. The more urges you have that you successfully ignore, the more you realise.. By now, I feel like that knowledge is in my bones.. Just practice having the urge and not doing anything about it and watch it go away..

    In one sense, you kinda don't want some strategy to avoid having the urge itself.. You gotta get comfortable with it.
     
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  11. Just wondering, did you suffer from pied at all and if so how has it improved?
     
  12. Will27272

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    Yeah, it wasn’t severe pied. I could still have sex, but i didn’t have super hard erections.. enough to penetrate, but not rock hard like in my teen years..

    I also didn’t get morning wood, or if I did it’d be very weak..


    My erections are now stronger, but still not as hard as I’m sure they could be.. it’s still an ongoing process!
     
  13. Will27272

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    Yeah, it’s super easy to tee up dude..

    You can buy eye masks on eBay for like $2 but really you can cover your eyes with anything..

    There’s a lot of white noise videos on YouTube or Apple Music/ Spotify, just find one that doesn’t sound too harsh and bobs your uncle ;)
     
  14. Will27272

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    Sorry I just quoted both of you.. my bad haha
    orry
     
  15. Did you have sex during your reboot? And were there times that you failed? I'm wondering if I should have sex after the 30 days mark.
     
  16. Will27272

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    Yeah I did.. I never held back from sex and I think having a partner was a huge advantage in my recovery..

    I feel like it was instrumental in re-directing my sexual impulses..

    Up to you what you want to do, but I personally didn’t hold back..

    I did fail to have sex a few times.. lost wood, came way too early from the excitement (lol).. my partner is understanding though so it was never a problem..

    Do you have a partner? Have you had a good conversation about what you’re doing and what effects it may have?
     
  17. Yeah I have a partner but I won't be seeing her until day 49 of no pmo, so do you think I should start having sex with her again? It will be better rewiring with?

    I'm 19 and had my first girlfriend last year where I lost my virginity but suffered heavy from pied. With my new girlfriend, I feel much more comfortable and have had better success but i'm still not at 100% with my erection quality.
     
  18. Will27272

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    That’s an interesting predicament to be in.. how far off the 49 day mark are you??

    I mean this in a nice way, really, but I’m some dude from the internet who doesn’t know anything about your history..

    I can’t give any advice on that. What I can say is that’s something you have to think about for yourself..

    If you think it will be better for your recovery to have sex on Day 49 when she comes back, and are careful that this isn’t the addiction talking, go for gold. If you need longer, you need longer.. No biggie..


    You may also be in a flatline around 49 (I certainly was) so keep that in mind too.
     
  19. Dogan.211

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    Keep on bro congratulations to you.
    I'm not no in 29 days. I can't describe as smart as did it the benefits of nofap. I think I'm started a long run. Yes you are too my confidence is on the rise. My hesitating Behavior is lowered. My brain functioning is much better even if such a small time periods. Nearly half of my life passive masturbation and porn( any kind of porn from nude pics two kisses and watching intercourse in people) greatest reward I got in my life is in times without Pmo.
    Off of course quitting pmo is not the only thing to success in life. But without quitting pmo you will always beneath on the circumstances. You think you can success it without Rectify your soul and your brain no it's not going to happen. Believe it or not everything in our lives is binge on pmo. If your background is fully supported you. At the end of the day uol see it's not enough to being a member of rich and highly educated family. You will enjoy this life has present to you. But I'm afraid you will fail. If your background doesn't support you in life. Your chances are much lower success and goals if you want quit pmo. No one would save you. If you won't change your behaviors and keep on watching fucking people licking lesbians you are not success man. Believe or not these correlation between pmo and unsuccessful life lack of confidence feeling alienated is essential.
     
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  20. Dogan.211

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    Sorry was for scriptions error. Excuse me
     

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