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I'm tired to live

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by switex, May 10, 2018.

Do you feel empty like me everyday ?

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  3. Sometimes

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  4. Never

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  1. prince san

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    You have any tips?
     
  2. u376

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    just avoid horny thoughts
    i have the detailed version of tips.........i will message you if you want
     
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  3. John Lee Smith

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    Please share with us here too.
    And yes imagination always leads to relapse.
    You are right.
     
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  4. u376

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    • whenever you feel tempted then think about god ...or anything pure........for example your pet.......or any cute infant
    • when you feel the urge to M then think your both hands are fractured............or you just cant touch yourself
    • dont look at girls body parts except their faces
    • dont let any romantic feeling affect you(unless you are in relationship)..........i mean sometimes romantic feelings lead us to relapse.......so dont confuse lust with love
    • i will suggest you to avoid porn as much as possible.........it is tough .........but this is the only solution
    • do daily yoga or walk of atleast 30 minutes
    • medidation
    • just focus all your love on yourself........by developing several other hobbies .........like guitar, novels, movies(clean) ......and last follow your religion truthfully........things mentioned in religions are somehow very applicable
     
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  5. prince san

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    Thanks bro :emoji_punch::):)
     
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  6. Bijuu107

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    Hey switex,
    you see, everyone wants to help you here. I have a little hint for you. Write every day on a letter the good things that happened and the things or people for which you are thankfull. Believe me it changes your life. I hope you will go out of this shit and you will have a wonderfull life.
     
  7. Zephon

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    School isn't a good place for good connections. During my time at school I was also isolated from my class and sat alone everytime. Teamwork was only conditional on the teacher we had - in the worst case I had to work alone. The "comrades" didn't greeted to me anymore and made fun of me. When I started education and everything repeated on there I wanted to commit suicide. But my family saved me from there and cried about me, that they didn't know how I felt.
    Don't let anyone tell you, that you are worthless. And don't tell it to yourself. You ARE worth, every person has worth, but it is individual ;)
    Try to get out of this downward spiral, the video below explains how:

    There are more videos about how to strengthen yourself. And FarFromAverage is also a good youtube-channel that can help you.
    There were also a depressive phase for me where I wanted just to die. But then I went to vacation for having another thoughts. I met new people saw something different. Vacation or just seeing different then your routine can help healing you! After vacation I felt like a king, nobody can do anything bad to me. With that I could met new people, who I didn't notice before or who didn't notice me.
     
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  8. Oliver jackson

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    Totally agree with you bro
     
  9. primaljade

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    It is very easy to get bitter, and pissed off at nearly everybody, at least that's what it was like when I was much younger. Back then I had high expectations of the world and everybody, and nobody lived up to them.

    Part of the problem was I couldn't live up to my own expectations (I was fapping daily, a virgin with high social anxiety, barely passed courses, an outsider of nearly all social groups, etc) and that just made me even more depressed. When I did finally ask a girl out, she couldn't go since she had to visit her boyfriend... in jail.

    Part of the solution is setting a low bar, we're all human with flaws. Part of the solution is realizing that everything has a cost, and those smiley happy people you see may be totally miserable inside, or will be soon. You don't really know unless you open up to them very personally.

    I recommend forgetting about trying to get any validation from other people for a while, and take advantage of summer break to find yourself. When I say "yourself", I mean find out what your mission/purpose is for now, read a lot of different kinds of nonfiction, explore different things you can do, what issues draw you in, what motivates you, and how can you help others?

    The miserable-ness of youth is temporary, I had terrible years in it, but it gave me a shitload of perspective and wisdom for the future. I'm glad I wasn't some popular socialite party star (though it would've made getting laid easier then).
     
  10. switex

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    Hey primaljade. I'm sorry how you felt in high school. In the summer im going to work again 3rd summer in a row. Last summer i worked for 1 month and 2 weeks got some money. And again going this summer right after the last week of school.
     
  11. primaljade

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    @switex No worries, it was loooooooong ago
     
  12. Mohammed the one

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    So my comment will be different.
    DID YOU KNOW THAT IN MY COUNTRY NO ONE HAS A GIRLFRIEND? And even if they have they hide it from their parents. It is something like rejected. Did you know that i have no probelm with that? I mean i always see posts here talking about girls and girlfriends and i be like ahahahaha like really i dont care. And another thing: do you exercise just to make ladies interested in you? That will never work. And you will get depressed. You exercise because you love it or becausw it is good for you and your health generally in all ways not just because of ladies , ok?
    You said you like nothing in life and people always makw fun of you. that was my life. And i still didnt overcome it.
    Now to gaming: gaming now doesnt please you. SAME AS ME. Like everything you talked about is like you are talking about me. Listen to me: i always tried to stop pmo and my best streak was 40 days then i kept relapsing and i had all the bad symptoms like social anxiety and other symptoms that makes you shy and afraid and people make fun of you. Then one day i askes myself: what if i stop gaming? I mean maybw that is the big reason behind all these symptoms . And i stopped it for a month then returned to it by my will. EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED IN my life. All symptoms simply dissapeared in like a week or something like that and it was easy to be heapy, easy to smile, everything is easy
    What i meant is:
    If nofap didnt give you the benefits that people here talk about, maybe you have another addiction or another habit that you have to stop. Or try to stop and see how it goes. And even that addiction may be the reason why you keep relapsing in your journey.
    Hope that helped.
     
  13. Mohammed the one

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    As i told you , you are same as me.
    People used to make fun fun of me , etc. i used to love playing Battlefield 4 and Battlefield 3 and more games they were like the reason why i wanna live. Then and for now, no game pleases me. Even popular and good games like: squad, battlefield 1 and every good game.
     
  14. switex

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    Yo bro. Well recently i just don't approach girls cuz i don't feel like it. My cousin had a lot of gf and it was easy to find for him. at age 15 and he divorced at 18 or 19 with one girl and was depressed after. And when i was at my cousins house we talked about girls. He sayd just don't rush it and wait for them to notice you. Now about exercising i do because i love it. Not that girls notice it. I spend most of the time exercising going to take a swim and etc. The rest of the time playing game. I still have friends but they don't come to my house and invite me out and spend the rest of the day home.
     
  15. Mohammed the one

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    Nice ! Btw my “ friends” don’t invite me out. You know the solution?
    YOU INVITE THEM OUT AND THEY WILL ACCEPT IT IS NOT THAT HARD

    That is what i did yesterday and will do it again today.
     
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  16. Summer Son

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    What a nice thread is this! Actually I was thinking about THE SAME THINGS for me. I am at ay 112, I am thinking I made the best for rebooting for 112 days I never used PMO, exercised, meditated but I am still suffering loneliness, low life satisfaction, depression, anxiety, adhd, bad time management, living without any purpose etc. I feel like I haven't got any progress. And I have read all writings you hit the so damn true points guys thanks a lot.
     
  17. Bijuu107

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    Once a king called upon all of his wise men and asked them, “Is there a mantra which works in every situation, in every circumstance, in every place and in every time – in every joy, every sorrow, every defeat, and every victory – one answer for all questions? Something which can help me when none of you is able to advise me? Tell me, is there any mantra?”

    All the wise men were puzzled by the King’s question. After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appealed to all of them. They went to the King and gave him a ring with words engraved into it, with a condition that the King was not to read it out of curiosity. Only if, in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there seems to be no way out, only then he can read it. The King wore the ring without reading the engraving.

    Some time later, the neighbors attacked the kingdom. The King and his army fought bravely but lost the battle. The King fled on his horse and the enemies followed him. The King found himself standing at the mouth of a deep ditch. If he jumped into it, there would be no way out. The sound of the enemy horses were approaching fast and the King became restless. There was nowhere else to go.

    The King remembered his ring and about the engraving. He decided to read the message.

    “This, too, shall pass.”

    The King read it again and again until something struck him. Yes! This, too, will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom; I was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all its pleasures are gone. I am trying to flee from my enemies. But just as those days of luxuries have gone, this time of danger will pass, too. Calm came over the King. He remained still and silent. The King looked around at the place where he was standing and realized how beautiful it was. He had never known that such a beautiful place existed in his Kingdom.

    The revelation of the ring’s message had a great effect on him. He relaxed and forgot about his pursuing enemies. After a while, he realized that the noise of galloping horses had receded and that his enemies had lost him.

    The King gathered himself and reorganized his shambled forces and fought again. He defeated the enemy and reclaimed his empire. When he returned to the city after the victory, he was received with much fanfare. The whole capital was rejoicing and everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers rained down upon the King from every house, from every terrace as he trotted by. People were dancing and singing. In this moment the King thought to himself, “I am one of the bravest and greatest Kings. It is not easy to defeat me.” In all of the celebration an ego emerged in the King.

    Then a ray of sunlight caught the King’s ring and sharply flashed into his eye reminding him of its message, “This, too, shall pass.”

    He lowered his gaze and his valiant expression changed to one of humility. He realized, again, that if this, too, is going to pass, it is not yours. The defeat was not yours. The victory was not yours. You are just a player. Everything passes by. We are witnesses of all of this. We are the beholders.

    Happiness comes and goes. Sorrow comes and goes. And Life?

    This, too, shall pass.
     
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  19. Something that I found helps is to turn your thoughts toward others. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, animal shelter, food pantry or like I did visit an old folks home. You’d be surprised how interesting their lives are and how interested in yours they are. Many just sit day after day without any human interaction except the staff. Seek something that makes you aware of your own good fortune. Youth? Caring, sensitivity, having food, Home etc. good luck and keep seeking people to talk to.
     
  20. ALEX_88

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    hey boy,

    try to think that you will not waste your sperm for girls on pixels, try to love you, take pride in what you are, even if you fall back do not make a drama

    think that the sperm you have can give life to a human being and you can not waste it like that, it's a sort of vital sap.

    It 's normal that you felt depressed, it happened to me, but now get up !!!
     

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