If not porn, i go to escorts

I have a question for both of you.

If I understand this correctly, you're saying that if you're single and you visit prostitutes occasionally just for fun and enjoyment, then that's perfectly fine.

But what happens if you meet a nice girl, you both start dating, and after a while you find yourself in a relationship with her? Do you believe it's still fine to keep visiting prostitutes once in a while?

 

I was doing it while I was single so can’t say anything if one is in a relationship. I ain’t no Dr. Phil or some high moral priestess. Plus I am in a relationship now and for me if I let some girl in my life that means there is no need for me to do it anymore. Even if I was single now I wouldn’t partake. Got it out of my system a year ago. Funny thing is my gf knows about this about my past and wanted to experiment with a threesome but I don’t think it would be a good idea.

For me I needed to seriously bust a nut because I got my libido back out of the blue and it was needed to be taken care of pronto. My flatline caused me to be friend zoned all over so there was no way to empty my balls for me to get back to my equilibrium.

Given that you are so interested constantly trying to beat a dead horse where are you planning to take this discussion?

 

Hey man,

The original poster feels that he's stuck in a cycle and is bothered by his need to seek escorts, but some of the replies implied that there isn't anything wrong with that.

But you just said that if you were single you wouldn't do it and that you got it out of your system. Which means that maybe there is something wrong about prostitutes and maybe it's best for the OP to quit them.

My questions are not meant to beat a dead horse. I come to this forum to find answers and help others. I've learned throughout the years that the best way to do this is by asking questions.

This forum provides us with an opportunity to have mindset shifts and learn from each other as a result of having these discussions. I personally struggle a lot with porn and sex addiction.

 

From your responses you like to cherry pick and Nietzcheisize peoples’ post to fit your agenda. That is what I am getting at. Read my responses again. Like everything else if you take things to an extreme and can’t control yourself then it would be not a good idea to pursue this. The problem is not with escorts and porn the issue is you lack the discipline, willpower and any forms of self control. Now if say you go for a three day spree and screw to your heart’s desire until you are sick of it all and walk away so be it. Better to get it out of your system get your satisfaction and walk away. Keeping things lingering causes more problems where you will never go forward. If the OP is single, not hurting anyone doing this and to get it off his chest I mean who the hell am I or anyone go and dictate what he should do. He should know what he wants. Like Howard Roark stressed .... “Never ask me. Never ask anyone. How can you stand it not to know?”

 

If the solution is to simply be more disciplined and use more willpower, then there wouldn't be a need for forums like this.

OP is clearly bothered by his use of escorts. Here are some of his phrases:

"it's made feel insatiable"

"It feels like a cycle"

"I just want to keep that lust at bay"

"This is my most constant weakness"

"it's killing me"

How can we help this guy?

He clearly wants to stop.

Digging deep into the reasons behind seeking escorts is usually the first step to do it. It is unfortunate that the OP appears to be gone.

I won't bother you anymore.

Have a good weekend.

 

Meeting a nice girl has never been something that appeal to me. Nice girls are painfully boring.

The exclusivity of a relationship is to be determined by the partners invovled. If you two are in an open relationship then you can do as you please.
I was seeing a particular girl quite some time ago for over a year. And one night I was with a hooker... After I was still horny and went to another hooker. So not sure if that answers your question.

 

So if you think the only problem is porn-addiction, escorts may seem like a step up - it's sex with real women as opposed to pixels. I felt that way when I got here.

If you think the issue is sex-addicton, then seeing escorts may be a step down. If you're married, it's definitely a problem. If it's illegal where you are, that puts it on the sex-addiction scale - there are possibly-serious consequences to breaking the law. It IS illegal where I am.

 

No fucking wonder you're escaping into hookers and porn! That ITIL shit is the most terrible stuff ever. It made me want to tear my eyes out, and I only had the introduction!

 

Dude when i read i thought it was some description of mine. I used to act the same way as you but a month ago I started to work out study more for college subjects and started to learn a new language. Well I still have some insane urges for porn and look for scorts but it is way lesser than before. All the readings through the forum and inner power helped me a lot to seek for other things that could clear my mind. Just for the record i visited an escort web site just once in this last month and masturbated only once without porn wich is something remarkable when i remember that i used to visit this very website at least 5 times in a day and PMO in my mind the whole day.

 

One great book that you must read is called the power of habits. It sheds the lights on how we develop personal habits and how can we break it. There is an audio version of it as well