I was sexually abused at 13. Do any of you have a similar story?

I don't know about your therapist, but I am addicted to 'younger' porn and sissy porn too and I wasn't sexually abused at all. I believe these two genres of porn are standard fetishes of a genuine porn addict. These are probably the first taboos to be broken after years of porn abuse, as I came to know myself.

 

Sorry about your experience, talking about it helps. I also went through abuse but it was a bit different. First one was by a female relative who was older than me but was also young, around 14 maybe, when I was around 4 yrs, the second one was by an older male neighbor when I was about 5 (he was also a minor around 13 yrs). From what I remember, my female cousin would make me lie on top of her naked or semi naked and I did not really understand what was happening. She of course told me not to tell anyone and I never did until now as I write this. The older boy would take me and another boy of my age and make us suckle on him like children while he lay shirtless on bed. Again, I did not understand what the hell that was for but kids tend to trust older kids so as to remain in favor and also trust that they know more. I would lie if I say I felt traumatized, no, I never felt anything nor suffered depression, trauma etc. I am now an adult and like to take responsibility for my life and actions However, after many many years, I have come to realize that such experiences may have unconsciously played a part in my fucked up sexuality and sex life, somehow some way. As I said, I have never told anyone until now, I have never seen the boy since then, and would never remember his face anyway. For my cousin, we never talk since she lives a bit far and also because I am not close with any of my cousins anyway. it feels good to let it off my chest though.

 

I was sexually abused as a young child. My mom had to move us up-state and away from my dad. I don't know exactly what happened, she just told me I was sexually abused. I don't think it was my dad but maybe he didn't want to move, or they were fighting already anyway. Yeah, it has a lot of effects. Adult children of alcoholics (www.adultchildren.org) has a recovery protocol for survivors of sexual abuse as well as other abuse. I also view circumcision (male genital mutilation) as sexual abuse. And yes this stuff is very wrong and I believe the abuses create forms of acting out sexually. ACA talks about how it is important to remember and break the "don't talk" rule.

 

Another important aspect of healing from this is the "horrified reactions of others" (said in the ACA identity papers)

When you describe how you were abused, and you see the horrified reactions of others, it helps you understand the true depth of how you were wronged, and that you are not the only one who sees it that way. it counter-acts a lot of the denial and gas-lighting. So you definitely have my horrified reactions. Not horrified at you but horrified at what was done to you. It is truly a horrible thing for someone to do that to you.

 

You're not alone. I was 14. It was a weekend. I don't want to think about the details.

 

Sorry about your abuse bro, I have a question though, how is circumcision abuse considering it is medically recommended ?

 

Circumcision is not always abuse.. If i didn't get circumcised i probably wouldn't be able to pee.....