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Maybe Monk Mode Is Better

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by LookUp, Jun 7, 2018.

  1. LookUp

    LookUp Fapstronaut

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    So it's been over a month now with no PMO and tonight I went to the gym very late. My wife said she was going to wait up for me for a kiss and some cuddling
    Well she uses that word for sex and just holding each other so I have t ok guess. She usually wears full pajamas to bed, but she came in wearing a T shirt and underwear and wrapped her legs around me. After awhile she asked if this kind of cuddling made it harder for me to not PMO. WELL FUCK YES IT DOES. WHAT WAS SHE THINKING!
    Ok, maybe after some more time that kind of intimate contact might be ok as I'm sure normal people probably can do this.
    We need an alternate word for sex. This is how PMO fucked up my life and led to everything being awkward.
    Now I have to keep my mind off of it till I can sleep. I wish P had never been invented.
     
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  2. Mitness

    Mitness Fapstronaut

    See it as a good way of dealing with urgers and to get stronger...
     
  3. MasterRoshi

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    For me the goal is to have a healthy relationship with sex and sexual desire. Sex, much like food, is a normal part of life. You might want to do some writing about what your ideal sexual life looks like and see if you can share that with your wife so you guys can work on it together.

    I’m recently single (kinda- my wife left me recently) so I don’t know how that will work, but I wish you the best of luck, and in my newly founded nofap experience, honesty is really the best for me and also increases intimacy between me and love ones.

    By the way, where do I find all this “mode” talk, like hard mode and monk mode?
     
  4. LookUp

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    I'm an old fart and just keep poking around till I find it. If I do I will put the info or link in.
     
  5. LookUp

    LookUp Fapstronaut

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    Ok, here you go. From the home page click the horizontal search bars and then click info. Read on from there. Best of luck to you. It sound like life is hard right now. It does get better. When my second wife left I thought I would die without her and the truth was I had much better times ahead with number 3. If I don't beat this addiction, I'm going to be in the same boat as you. It's touch and go now since I admitted I was a PMO addict. That was over a month ago and lots of ups and downs. So hang in there. There is something better on the horizon.
     

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  6. LookUp

    LookUp Fapstronaut

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    Oh, and then click on "Porn Addiction Basics".
     
  7. EmmyB

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    Monk mode is definitely best. No orgasm, no edging. Your wife can wear what she wants, you should become strong enough not to need orgasm because of what she wears or does.
     
  8. LookUp

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    What she wears as far as looking goes is not the problem. Intimate snuggling with bare legs wrapped around me, is more than I can stand right now. Our compromise is she will make it clear when she wants to just snuggle and we will both be fully clothed in some way so as not to over excite during this time. With time I think we should be able to lay naked together and it not always turn into intercourse.
     
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