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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by B1144, Apr 4, 2018.

  1. B1144

    B1144 Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone, new here, I just wanted to post my story. When I was 10 years old my family went to Disney world and went with extended family as well. The night before going to Florida, my distant cousin sexually abused me. I remember being so confused and full of shame and guilt. At 11 I found my fathers magazine stash and I was hooked. I probably masturbated everyday of my teen years. I was pretty deep in depression around that time. Got a girlfriend in high school, with her for eight years and my pmo addiction kept rolling along. Lets just say I was highly sexualized during my early twenties. When I separated from her it just got worse, deeper depression, pmo numerous times a day. In my late twenties I met my most recent girlfriend off of craigslist and we hit it off pretty good(I think we had some of the same issues). That relationship was a wake up call for me and she eventually wanted me to stop looking at porn. I finally did when I was around 30 but our last year together we probably only had sex maybe five or six times, and one or two was a failure. I was so turned off by sex, even though I had some strong fantasies involving cuckoldry which we never did(we both thought it'd be unhealthy for our relationship). Now I'm five months single and want to change for the better and heard of NoFap so i signed up. I did stop pmo for a couple weeks at a time but it's just those weekend nights that are stressful and I want to indulge. I've been trying to read more often and learn some new things but I just get bored sometimes. Today is day three so I'm trying to stay strong this weekend. Thanks for reading!
     
  2. Hey @B1144 ,

    Very glad you are here. I'm just a normal member. Not a moderator or anything like that.

    When I arrived here, I was very confused by the program. So many terms, ideas, different opinions. I was in some ways as overwhelmed with NoFap as I was with pmo.

    I found two things that helped me.

    First, was reading up on the program and figuring out where to start and how to work my program. The best page is the one with the list of all the resources available.

    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

    That page explained the program. I read every article and watched all the videos on that page.

    Next, was the community. By getting involved, reading people's posts, remembering to "like" the posts, reading the post not only in the forum, but on people's profiles, I found a great group of people.

    This is a diverse community. We have religious people and secular ones. There are men and women. People with months of no pmo and those just starting out. As well, there are many different approaches to remove porn from our lives forever.

    Keep reading posts and profiles. You will find someone who is telling your own story. Keep posting your own story, someone needs to read it.

    Looking forward to reading many more posts from you,

    --> L
     
  3. For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

    Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

    I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

    @CrushPornBeneathYourFeet
    @JakeO5
    @Arohamystic
    @MLMVSS
    @Rising Sun !!
    @Ready to be healthy
    @Brahmacharin
    @tet2vd
    @Satchi
    @BigDawg913
    @zakes
    @LilD
    @kropo82

    Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

    So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

    Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

    --> L
     
  4. One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

    I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

    Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

    @Alikersantti - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155162/
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    @Reverent - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/
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    @BigDawg913 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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    @kropo82 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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    @tet2vd - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513/
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    @Protagoras - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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    @JakeO5 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152940/
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    There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

    This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

    --> L

    PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal.

    The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page.

    Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time.

    Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar.


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    B1144 Fapstronaut

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    Thank you! Keeping a journal sounds like a good idea.
     
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    Day 71! I didn't keep up with a journal but have been around. I assume that the past month I've been on a flatline because I don't even have the urge to PMO anymore. I follow some yoga pages on Instagram and man, they're some good looking women on there that usually I'd be triggered by but I just appreciate their beauty and move on. I've been rock hard waking up in the morning some days but I just avoid doing anything and go use the restroom then meditate for 15-20 mins. Meditation probably has been one of the best things I've gotten into these past four years that I wouldn't doubt is the main reason that I haven't relapsed since I started this journey. I'm still single but loving it right now and being more comfortable and confident with doing things by myself. I traveled across the country to a state I've never been to, hiked and explored in the mountains, going to the bar and interacted with some locals..these are things I wouldn't have done 10 years ago. I'm still working on myself though and I decided I'm going to go for a year without PMO, something I've needed to do for a long time. I'm glad I found this community!
     
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  7. Hi. My late welcomes to forum! Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey! :emoji_v:
     
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  8. Is there any reason why you have to follow them for the time being of reboot to begin with? I do not know what pages you follow. But in my experience some of that stuff can be borderline softcore porn...
     
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    B1144 Fapstronaut

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    True I know what you mean, I guess right now I'm trying to learn more yoga moves but yea I probably shouldn't follow that page.
     

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