Tell me why I shouldnt watch porn. Iv invalidated many of my reasons.

It messes with your brain and dopamine release / receptor sensitivity.
For this reason alone I'll never engage in porn again. Also, because it releases so much dopamine there is a massive chance for becoming addicted (so "moderating" porn in my opinion it never really works out in the long term.)

Yourbrainonporn has a good overview

 

I'm not going to persuade you. I see how it positively impacted me, thus I'd recommend it. Why don't you just try it? I see your goal as reasonable and I think that you would experience a shift in perspective in the process.

 

Try moderating porn? I have man, it just never works out - every time there is always a need for more and my plan for once a week masturbation just turns into 3 times... 4 times.. soon back to everday.

Then again I'm also an addict to it - other people could potentially moderate.. but why would you want to? Real sex is so much better than porn.

 

I'm ashamed of it because of the stigma that is attached to it. When people know they will laugh at you, think of you as a 'low life loser'

 

I see it the same as with refined sugar. Having an apple with your lunch? I can see how it can be considered healthy. Hitting 6th candy bar in a row? Probably not so much.

 

I agree guilt and shame are useless. On top of that, they often lead to depression and anxiety, which really aren’t helpful when you have to solve a problem.

PMO is a problem, energetically. Stop for awhile and you’ll see. At a low frequency, it won’t be a big problem.

But the higher the frequency of PMO, the harder it is to muster your full energy for anything and everything.

 

Does caffeine and gambling release as much dopamine and fuck your receptors, because I have caffeine occasionally (once a fortnight, give or take) but I always use it when I got something important or I want to have a good workout and I can go off it. Same with gambling, but I feel huge amounts of dopamine from gambling, but I can tell myself I won't do it tomorrow and after that I don't crave it, but if I have any porn I crave it

 

Off PMO, life is easier.

On full-time PMO, the dopamine receptors have down-regulated, and now it’s harder to get psyched for anything. Chores are way worse, and the good things in life are duller.

Maybe a little, maybe a lot— for me, the amount of energy PMO sucks out of life is related to the frequency of the PMO.

 

PIED, which makes you feel like you should more be the little baby to the woman you share your bed with, rather than her lover.

 

I know where you are On nofap, great! but still not wanting to give up that PMO.

Look at this from another point of view - if you weren't doubting porn whatsoever, if you didn't think it is bad in some way, you wouldn't be here. So, that is a success!
And now to your message - remember one thing, you can justify, persuade, and rationalize about everything!

Killing person is bad! -> well, it might be good if that person would kill me!
Lack of energy from PMO is enormous -> well, I am strong, I can cope with that!
... and sometimes you even attach stories to support your arguments... I will be laughed for watching porn -> well not! My friend objected that he respected me for my performance!

see what I am doing here? Somebody called this the doom of intelligent people, or the art of talkative ones - even if something is true or not, you can make a statement that makes it true... And many times it is just a self-deception, but we don't know, right?

No thoroughfare right there - meaning, if you want to stay with pmo (and I know it is hard to change this! but you can!) and you will think about every nofap reason like this, eventually, you will justify every reason as false, and get back to PMO. So, my fifty cents are there:

Be open-minded - accept that your opinion may be the best, but also also can be the worst, the most harmful and - FALSE

And, what has worked for me - read stories from other PMOers - Don't call it love, Your brain on porn book, and many others - from books, from reddit/forums [link reddit], from sections with failure reports etc - and know, that without stopping pmo you will get into same life situation sooner or later

man, you don't have to quit porn and masturbation - many people didn't, and they have survived, live life... 60 years, with job, with 1-2 children.. with relationships they hate, life that they hate - and, in the end, nobody ever remembers them - as they turn to ground in their basket nobody even prays for them, nobody thanks them for their life - or better said, they thank the god for removing him... heh

or you can - and you already have read the benefits...

so, the final decision is on you - if you want to quit porn - there are enough resources to make a strong conviction that porn is bad, enough support and enough everything to help you succeed in this journey... if not, it is your life and nobody from us has right to force you to another but remember that then you WILL harvest the seeds you sow today

and lastly if many people are telling something - there is huge chance they are right can be the direct opposite - as there are many lies on this society, but then you have to have strong proofs

so, I wish you to make the best decision for you...
good luck


tomsko

 

I'm sorry for the late reply but gambling is much more stimulating than caffeine, yes.

If you MUST have caffeine then don't have it with sugar at all, i haven't had caffeine in a very long time - quiting does not impact life much at all and one a day from what i know is actually good for you (also as a workout stimulant.) So caffeine = little problem but gambling can easily get very bad.